Underwear is not a camp supply
Before I disengaged, I told FDH to email BM and see what supplies SD needed for her week away at camp. Last year, she dropped her off at our house with a supply list the night before camp. In addition to everything on it, he also had to buy her bras and underwear. It hit the pocketbook hard with an unexpected expense so I wanted to make sure she knew we'd be splitting it this year. And you know, planning ahead like normal people like to do.
So BM just emailed the list. She said "She used to have a lot of underwear but I don't know where it is now. So she will need that too!"
Is she kidding? We are not paying for something she should already have. He already gave her money for underwear in the form of child support. And if she'd clean her damn pigsty of a room at BM's, she'd probably find 30 pairs.
Oh BM....
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Bah, get her the cheap
Bah, get her the cheap undies. Kids can never have too much underwear anyhow.
My understanding is that it
My understanding is that it covers food, clothing and shelter. We don't keep their clothes here. We send them home washed and folded.
I also just gave her a giant
I also just gave her a giant bag of nice clothes I can't wear anymore. All of her summer clothes were at some point purchased by me.
tog, I don't know who told
tog, I don't know who told you it doesn't cover clothing. I agree with Anne, food, clothing, shelter.
That's all we are good for in
That's all we are good for in this household. SD only comes when she needs something.. Like her glasses..Braces...School supplies... Clothing... Oh wait what is child support?? OH that's right. It goes towards Mother because she can't get a job and uses it on her stuff... I F*ing love the government system that set this shit up...
Actually much of it depends
Actually much of it depends on what and how has all been included in the CO CS. Some might actually state 'NCP pays CP x amount per week, in addition to x NCP and CP shall split the cost of _______(fill in the blank), the cost of ______' ect ect ect.
When a CS order is left nonspecific is when the bickering back and forth and misunderstanding come in. Would I expect CP to purchase every set of shoes a kid ever wore for 18 years? Absolutely not. Would I run out and buy kid a pair of shoes every time a CP said little junior needed/wanted shoes? Nope.
It never fails to amaze me (and no I'm not talking about anyone in particular here or elsewhere) when a poster says 'that is what CS is for'...when the poster's NCP husband/wife pays for example a lousy $200 a month. Seriously? Just how far does $200 a month go. Does it cover every item of clothing, the cost of school registration, school lunches, school and sport activities blah blah blah. Does it even cover 1/2 of those cost per month?
But then comes the poster who states NCP pays $500 a month, $1000 a month even $2000 a month. In those circumstances comments like 'that's what CS is for' makes more sense and is much easier to agree with the posters thoughts on the issue.
In the case of this OP on this blog, my opinion feels if BM needs bras and panties for daughter, then BM best go shopping for some. It's not an item for camp. Sure the daughter is going to be wearing a bra at camp, but a bra is an everyday need. Not something to put on a camp list to hand to the opposite parent. I'm sure if daughter needs bras and undies at OP's home NCP won't make kid go panty and braless. But that does not necessarily mean NCP needs to run out to the mall, load up on 1/2 a dozen bras and 2 dozen panties and send them back to CP's house either.
That's a shame that the BM in
That's a shame that the BM in your case won't use 1/2 a month's CS for one month each summer and let the child go to camp. She doesn't have school lunches and transportation to pay for those weeks. It's these kind of cases where I feel the CP is just being greedy and ornery.
About 2k per month goes to
About 2k per month goes to BM. She can buy underwear.
For some reason, a fact that
For some reason, a fact that keeps getting lost in the shuffle as well is that EACH parent is supposed to provide 50% for the child. Some CPs figure that the NCP needs to pay for EVERYTHING for the child...and at their discretion as well!