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Crazy BM found out about Xmas Plans..

anita...sigh's picture

and blew a gasket! You wouldn't believe the S**t I go through!! Check out this email we got
from BM. For reference, Betty has been a friend of ours for over 6
years and she bought a puppy (Vinnie) from me and she asked what we are doing for Xmas because she was thinking of visiting and I replied. My note is at the end of this bizaare rant! BM has aleinated the skids from us and uses me as her excuse. SD16 beat the tar out of me a year ago for which there was no consequences and things have been very strained with the skids since. They do not like to be questioned on their actions and are very entitled kids.

BM and DH had recently negotiated a CS settlement which included some back pay; however, her lawyer, who is responsible for writting the order, failed to put in some very important points in the order so we sent it back for revision before we pay out any settlement money. Also, we have received no phone call from her lawyer. Apparently, it is also our fault that we want the order to be in the matter agreed!

This is her email (I cut and pasted it so it is exactly as she wrote it). I have included the email I had sent to my friend that got her so upset. BM decided last summer that she was a lesbian, left her husband for her lover who plays in a band with our friend Betty so I don't doubt that Betty did say something but Betty is a sweet heart and would have in no way have been melicious about telling Bm about my Xmas plans. She probably thought it would be no big deal. I don't even want to tell Betty about BM's response because she would feel bad about it.

From: Crazy BM

I see you tried to call, I haven't a response from you in a few days
so i have contacted my lawyer and she is trying to get a hold of you
to let you know the protecall if you have a problem. I feel its time
to go for court and i need to end the petty decrepincies you feel that
are blocking you. It is extremely hard to raise these children that we
love and i have been short changed for a long time. They suffer every
time and i always bear the burden. I have had enough of this and am
taking you to court to let,- not me, for i have been foolish and
trusting to think your kids are going to be a number one concern, but
lack your full backing in always, following through for you --you see
it as my gain not theirs, (so so very mistaken that is), But let
the jugdge decide, not 50percent or a pittley amount for guitar but
all the 96percent based on family income and whatever the judge
decides prudent. Its a hard time and Im stressed infufilling and
meeting their basic need, You dont ever do the non stop supply of
necessities. Not sure why you phoned or what the kids plans are for
Christmas OR why your partner would email Betty(my personal friend) to
say she had to leave for you to spend time on Christmas with your
kids, odd weird but not my issue, they can decide and we dont care
nor do my friends so dont email Betty or us about how she or you tick.
I just care about supplying a healthy substainable life for my girls
which i share with you. Email from now on I wont call for you
broke the word you said See you in court back to the email from
both parties i wont talk on phone. BM

Here's my email to my friend that was so offensive to her:

Hi Betty

Glad to hear things are working out between you and Vinnie. I can't wait
to see him again. I've seen a couple of the other puppies and they are
real sweet. I have one puppy left who looks like Foxy but will have
bigger ears and he is a real charmer. We've already had him vaccinated
and dewormed. We are absolutely falling in love with him and need to get
him to his permanent home (once we find him one). We have to repeatedly
tell ourselves we do not need anymore dogs. I'm sure going to miss him.
Its so strange not having all the puppies running around but I am looking
forward to the next batch Smile Gotta luv those puppies.

Planning on spending a quiet Xmas at home. My sister and nephew will be
coming from PG (Hopefully). DH is going to have Xmas eve here with his
girls and I'm gonna bug out and go to my Mom's for the night so DH and
his girls can have there Xmas without anyone complaining about my presence
(sigh). Hopefully everything will work out alright.

Talk to you later.

If I had stayed her for Xmas, skids would have used it as an excuse not to come, now that I'm not going to be here, she's twisted it yet again to make it into something evil. Can't win through losing. sigh.

Comments

Harleygal's picture

How did BM get hold of that e-mail??

"OCD sucks"
Habit and routine have an unbelievable power to destroy.
--Henri de Lubac

anita...sigh's picture

is the sweetest kindest person and definately not a trouble making gossip. BM did not get ahold of the email but, most likely, during a casual conversation over general Xmas plans, probably mentioned mine with no thought that it would cause trouble.

I even hate to tell Betty what occured because she would be horrified that this woman made issue with it and feel bad. BM can go to hell if she thinks I'm going to stop seeing, emailing or talking to my friends just because she is acquainted with them too. I don't believe for one minute that they are "personal friends" its just BM's delusions because her spouse plays in the same band as my friend and BM goes to band practices.

Since it drives BM so crazy everytime she hears my name, I'm almost tempted to tell Betty to talk about me, how happy we are, etc., just to tick her off but Betty is too nice and would never do that.

BM has mental health issues and is quite unstable at the moment so it doesn't take much to set her off. Fortunately, I really don't care anymore. Its more funny then anything else.

I'm sure, though, we haven't heard the last of it. Fortunately, there is nothing more she can do to us. She has custody, she gets the max amount of child support $1,360 per month, and another amount for extraordinary expenses. She only thinks she is entitle to more. Its like she is clueless about the Child Support Guidelines they have in Canada. Its based on gross income and that's what she gets. She just can't handle dealing with her own kids. One has been living on underage Income Assistance for 2 years (she had a baby at 16), and her other three kids have been living at her exhusand's house. Funny thing is OSD18 and baby got evicted on the weekend (Police involved the whole works) and now has to move back home with her, SD14 got kicked out of her exstepfather's house for beating up her sister, so she should have fun raising her kids.... afterall, that's what she fought so hard to do. Now she can lay in her own bed and deal with it.

Ahhhh, disengaging is great once you get into it. Smile

We all smile in the same language

SerendipitySM's picture

Yes watch out - this Betty person may be "acting" as if she is your friend and feeding BM with all sorts of crap...

Inside every cynical person, there is a disappointed idealist. - George Carlin

SM#1's picture

Betty either gave her the email or said something nasty about you. Your email was fine, in fact I would show this in court. And BM angry response on how she will take the DH to court. You say in your email that you want to give himn time alone with his kids on Christmas.... I think that is nice of you. I assume that you meant you didnt want BM to complain about you being there right? There is nothing wrong with trying to aviod future fights with BM, the judge should be happy you are trying to do what is best for the kids.

I think BMs try to blame everything on the SMs becuz they want the wife and husband to break up and the DHs to be unhappy the rest of their lives. BMs won't rest untill they are sure to have ruined the DHs, even if BMs themselves have moved on.