OT - blaming your past
Quite often, people attribute their past experiences for who they are today. While the past can definitely alter what forks in our paths we choose, we also have the choice to NOT let the past cripple us. For some, instead of trying to move above and beyond what happened, they use it as an excuse.
"I had a crappy childhood"
"My parent/spouse abused me"
"I grew up in a bad neighborhood and that's all I know"
I got in with a bad crowd when I was a teenager, did some horribly stupid things, but managed to make it out alive and intact.
I was abused by my exh and barely made it out alive. He continually stalked me and tried to kill me more than once.
These are things I will never forget. But I absolutely refuse to use those as excuses for crap behavior or stunting my personal growth.
I recently read a meme that I agree with 10000000%.
Your sh!tty childhood isn't an excuse to be a sh!tty person.
Your sh!tty luck with relationships isn't an excuse to be a sh!tty person.
Your sh!tty experiences aren't an excuse to be a sh!tty person.
We all have our sh!t to deal with and you can either let it define you or grow from it.
YOU get to choose. Make excuses and continue to be a sh!tty person. Or decide to elevate yourself above and beyond the sh!t. Life is short. Why allow your focus to be on the negative?
What can I say. I hit double nickels today and feel like I've evolved a little. Peace out.