OT--my last name
My DH has had real issues with my name lately.... I was married before (briefly) and it was a horrible relationship and lasted less than one year, but when we divorced, the lawyer wouldn't put it in the paperwork for me to get my maiden name back which is what I wanted to do. She (the lawyer) said it was dumb to change my name back so wouldn't put it in the papers, I had already paid her. My DH made his BM keep his last name for the sake of the kid *she's gone back to her maiden name after the 2nd divorce finally* but why do men freak out about it. We are married and I have his last name now, but when he sees our marriage license or something that I had before we married, he like has a cow and I think he regrets marrying me sometimes....I'm just confused.
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is my first marriage and i kept my maiden name.... for two reasons, one i've been know professionally by it forever..... 2. dh ex kept his name & it still fucking pisses us both off....... we didn't think to put it in the papers, so she'll never change her name unless she "CROSS FINGERS" gets remarried..... i never brought it up, so it tickled me to death when dh out of the blue said "i wish that fat fucking cunt didn't have my name" hence the term FFC we use to affectionately refer to her..... i thought about offering her money -- but then she would know how much it bothers us.......
my dh never says anything about it, but i am sure going on 5 yrs marriage he wonders why we don't share a last name..........
guys are weird --- let it roll and act as if you don't know wtf he is reacting to...
LOL @ FFC! I wondered what
LOL @ FFC! I wondered what FFC meant on another of your posts. I almost choked on my wine!
we call ours
FCB which means Fucking Cunt Bitch... even in front of her sometimes she has no idea what it means though I like FFC too sometimes we call her F-ing C-word
Glad
you liked it --- i thought it was kind of appropriate -- i came up with f'n C --- dh added the extra F........ funny thing is her first and middle initial is FC ---- and you know the number is programmed on all phones with ffc -- at one time it was spelled out, but once the ass gnats (Ags) got old enough to realize that it didn't spell mommy --- dh asked me to change it....... so i guess what does FFC mean will come up soon........ like i care...... don't choke on the wine --- i've opted for the vodka/ruby red tonite...... seems to ease the presence of the AGs...... i'm mean --- sorry..... but one day when i have enough fucking privacy to blog my brain out --- you guys may disown me........hopefully send me in the right direction, after you realize i am human and just never ever had an outlet like this site........ i've said it before and will say it a kazillion more times, this site and all of you ROCK!!!!
My last name
Before I got married to my ex, I mentioned that I wanted to hyphenate my maiden name with his. He blew a gasket!! I mean, he was downright nasty about it. I can't believe I went ahead and married him, but I was very young and very, very stupid.
The beautiful, wonderful man I am married to now, asked me to please take back my maiden name. I now use my maiden name as my middle name and chose to honor him by taking his name. He is worthy after all.
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Love me or hate me, I'm still gonna shine!!!
I like how you honor
I like how you honor him...
That is a great thing!
We call ours....
"Muffy" or "Diver".... shes a lesbo....
About the last name thing.... I still have my ex-dh's last name.... I love the name and its MY name! BF has told me that if we marry he expects me to change my last name. I really don't get the big deal but I'll change it....
BM
BM kept her married name even tho it's written in the divorce papers that she can take her maiden name back. Why? I still think she clings to the memory of their marriage and just can't get past it, and it makes her feel like she's still part of DH's family. GAG!
My ex
was a complete freak about this, too-- but he acted like he didn't care one way or another -- UNTIL we got married. Then he turned into a total jerk about the way I was supposed to sign my name. I had decided to keep my maiden name as my middle name and took his last name. However, I had built an entire professional career with my maiden name, so decided to use that professionally and his in my non-professional life. Well, he blew a gasket. He said, "Since you took my name, you're going to use it correctly." Just one sign out of many that he was not going to be a pleasant man to be married to.
My DH actually likes that I kept my name when we got married -- because he is PROUD that I'm an individual with my own professional life and my own identity. He says that his ex hadn't accomplished anything when she married him, so her maiden name didn't have any "weight" to it. We both really wish she would go back to her maiden name, but it's not likely to happen. I refuse to share her name, so until she changes it, I will not be taking my husband's name. If she does change it, I will take my H's name and use my maiden name professionally -- like I TRIED to do with my asshat of a first husband.
BB
- You are not second best, you are not second class. Do not ever let anyone make you feel that way. (2Bloved)
Well, I can see how that
Well, I can see how that would bother him. It bothers some women on here that BM has the same last name as them. I think I wouldn't like it if BM had FH's last name. It would be weird though, b/c then OSD would have a different last name than everyone else. My facilitator for some reason decided to "correct" my papers and where it says my maiden name shall be restored to __________, she crossed out what I wrote and changed it back to my married name. I didn't notice it, and when i went to update SS and DMV, they wouldn't do it. I had to file another form and pay $20 to get it restored. Took about two weeks.
My FH hates the fact I have
My FH hates the fact I have my ex's last name.. He refuses to use it on any documents. I do not consider it my ex's last name I consider it my childrens last name and they will always be mine.
It is also the only last name I have had for all of my adulthood.
FH wants me to change my last name to his when we get married but, honestly I do not want to. It has nothing to do with my ex it is all about my kids. (and they are minors still)
Also, his ex kept his last name so why should there be 2 of us out there..haha
Kept my name
I kept my name. Which was already hyphenated with my maiden name and my first husbands name. Situation is different for me. Husband passed away and I wanted to have the same last name as my son. There was no way I was adding a third name. My maiden name is what I use professionally and it would be stupid to try and have people remember another name now. This husband has issues with it, but when it comes up I tell him there is already a woman in this town with that last name (Ex wife), why does he need another one?