These excuses my partner comes up with are sometimes farciable...
Situation: partner and I have been together five years, met kids at six months in, have been in their life since they were 4.5 and 6.5- They are now 9 and 11
In the last 24 months I have noticed the kids making less and less effort to talk to me and sometimes outright ignoring me. Things like not saying hello when I came in or if we are all sitting at dinner table they will ask their father to pass them something that is right next to me. I also noted that if I ask a question I would get one word answers but should anyone else ask the same question they would get a whole story about it
The only thing I came down on was the not saying hello cause it reached the point where I would come into the house say hello and they would be standing there and say nothing. I came down hard on partner and they now say hello and goodbye
However the rest hasn't changed. I have broached my partner on several occasions about these changes and he has a list of excuses
First: they are quiet children
Second : they are just shy around people
Third: we (secretly meaning I) have to do more to engage with them
Personally I think their mother is at work here
Last night I thought I had finally got through to partner. We were both late coming in and decided to pick up Chinese for dinner - kids are in back of car. It is wintery so dark windy and rain. Partner says will you guys stay here and I said yes. Then the kids kick up being like no no daddy we want to go with you. They literally could not get out of the car and away from me fast enough
Partner saw this and we discussed it last night after they had gone to bed- he tried the regular excuses and I shut them down. It's been over four years- they should be well used to me by now. And seeing as I am the one who does the printing and decorating of the school projects (and literally minded them the entire Sunday before cause partner had emergency at work) I think we can consider me engaged. Partner is receptive says he will discuss it with them and we can work out a plan
This morning... duh duh duh... the new excuse!!!
You all really for this ???
The new excuse- he thought about it after we discussed it and they jumped out of car and ran after him cause they had missed him so much!!!
My response was you had them Thursday Friday Saturday Sunday Monday and they didn't see you for 48 hours and they missed you that much- really???
LOL LOL LOL
have to give him points for the originality and the ego stroke to himself tho!!!