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For those who have left StepHell or are thinking about it....

AlreadyGone's picture

Many months of reflection brings me to this thread. What are the things you absolutely DO NOT miss or would not miss about StepHell???

1) The lies.

2) The excuses

3) The SK's smirky little shit eating grins (especially when they know they have managed to get over on the 'supposed' sane BP.)

Please feel free to add to the list.....

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farting_glitter's picture

oh, this is easy:

1. I would not miss Princess Boy and his entitled,spoiled, arrogant, holier than thou, little prick attitude....at all...never...ever..period...matter of fact I would throw myself a huge "going away" party

end of list

HadEnoughx5's picture

1. Swamp Hole and her need to cause as much drama as possible. Manipulation, lies, just seeing her ugly mug.
2. DH's need to serve life on a golden platter for Dork and Prince.
3. DH's excuses to not parent Dork and Prince.

realitycheckmom's picture

I was surprised you did not put the nails on here...

I got a nail in my tire on my work vehicle and I thought of you and wondered where Swamp and Mini-Swamp were. }:)

DaizyDuke's picture

I would not miss one thing other than my DH. Not one.freaking.thing.

DH and I have actually had a conversation about selling our house and seperating until SD15 is out of the house and then getting back together. Because I can't deal with all the shit she brings to our home, I can't deal with the absolute fool of a guilty dad that he has become and he can't deal with me, not being able to deal with SD and him and round and round we go.

grow-a-nut's picture

My last straw happened when my SD was 28 and living 2 and a half hours away. Even when you don't house them they can skank up your life. I get her when she was 12. It didn't get better for me when she got older because she got craftier, wittier, more deceptive and way better at all those things than me.

By the time it was over, I looked at my husband with disgust because I surely couldn't respect him anymore.

farting_glitter's picture

key word Brie...BECOME...which you are not at this moment...yet...yet you seem to think you have a "role" in this kids' day to day say so ???...wow....it's going to hurt when you fall off that pedestal that you have oh-so highly perched yourself on.....

farting_glitter's picture

meh....PMS maybe...no wait..that's not it....that's due next week.... Wink

realitycheckmom's picture

Maybe FG has a problem with someone who is going after her? Brie did make some not so nice comments and I have a problem with a stepparent thinking they have the right to be involved with a parent teacher conference when the bio parents are involved. Brie has already stated she inserts herself in a parental role when BM is involved and she knows it pisses BM off and she gets joy from it. That is twisted and high conflict behavior. Something we would be screaming with pitchforks and torches over if a BM were saying and doing it to a fellow SM. It is even more twisted when Brie is a girlfriend that wants to have her SO pay for two-thirds of the hotel on vacation because the skid was there. WTH?

I have a feeling that if Brie ever had a child and had to deal with a SM like herself she would be flipping her wig about it and bitching here left and right.

realitycheckmom's picture

A number of other threads. When you have been attacked a number of times you tend to get a little defensive.

farting_glitter's picture

No i didn't attack her....i stated facts to her....acting like an entitled GF does push my buttons....her arrogance will get her in a battle with BM that she will not win....i promise....and you are right...i don't usually act like this but this iis a special kind of crazy.....:)

realitycheckmom's picture

I have left STEPHELL and not by choice.

I do not miss my SKID and his RAD.
I do not miss his physical assaults on my toddler
I do not miss his lies of child abuse by myself and his dad
I do not miss his whining
I do not miss him complaining
I do not miss him teasing and bullying my toddler
I do not miss needing security cameras in my home to keep my child safe
I do not miss his BM that looks and acts like a man who lies and makes up stories
I do not miss the epic crying tantrums because BM did not show up like she was supposed.
I do not miss being yelled at to shut up by a nine year old because he chose to talk to his BM in the living room where the family was hanging out together
I do not miss said 9 yr old yelling at me to turn off the tv so he can monopolize the living room to talk to his BM
I do not miss having to miss talking to FDH because BM needs to talk to SS on my phone and if she doesn't get to talk the first time she calls she is going to sue us
I do not miss her stealing our family photos off FB and claiming them as ones she took on her vacation that never happened outside of her mind
I do not miss my psychotic inlaws and their PAS and lies
SIGH the list is endless of what I do not miss...the entitlement and bratty behavior...

I MISS FDH with all my heart. He was a good man that was abused by his exes, his children, and his parents all over a 9 yr old with Reactive Attachment Disorder that would kill you in your sleep just to see what it feels like or because we did not cater to his every whim.

AlreadyGone's picture

Very good Ladies! Gotta say, I'm lovin' the lists, Biggrin . I see we got a little off-topic for a nano-second but, I was happy to see it fade pretty quickly. Smile

Many thanks for your replies and might I say..... many of us are truly living parallel lives judging by the content of these lists. Wink Safety in numbers, me thinks. Blum 3