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HEARING SOME SCARY THINGS ABOUT HAVING A BABY....

allinall's picture

I am just in a blog mood tonight. I just finished reading some blogs about SKs hurting Bio Kids. OMG...I would catch a charge over some BS like this. How many of you out that have experienced this? What happened and what did you do about it? Why do you think it happened?

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defeatedsm's picture

I have when SS got violent and started having sexual behavior problems. I took our kids and left. I think it happened because his mother is violent and so are her men and he was exposed to a lot of pornographic images by the one that used to be their step dad. But I have also seen 2 of mine hit their baby sibling but that was when they were younger than 2.

AliceP's picture

I have 2 SD's 9 and 10 and then I birthed their half sisters 2 and 4. My SD9 tackled my BD and bloodied her mouth then BD4 bit her and then bit SD10 too when she was trying to break it up. It was quite the squabble, but in the skids defense I had run out to talk to a neighbor and told everyone to stay inside the gate and my BD didn't listen and the skids were trying to keep her from getting out of the gate.

Another time BD4 came in crying saying SD10 hit her and I thought she was confused and said "You mean SD9 hit you." Because those two give me the most trouble, they are always at eachothers throats. she said "No it was SD10 the redhead!!!" I just shrugged andsaid "Well then I am guessing you deserved it cause that is not like her."

It's mostly normal rilvary stuff here. They are pretty decent to eachother. What's kind of embarrasing is my 4 year old bullies the 9 year old and I am trying to rectifythat.

Anonymous_stepmom's picture

Raises hand!

My 3 bio kids have NEVER harmed their little brother. Only the skids. The girl is just rough in general, I was so scared even before I had him for her to be around him because I had seen her with small animals and how rough and mean she was, it's like she get's TOO carried away. SO said he didn't think she'd be rough with the baby but I didn't believe him and the very first time she met him she was trying to maul him and was yanking on his legs, this eventually led into her smacking him on his tummy, his head etc. I do think she adores her little brother, it's just that she doesn't know how to handle them, there may be a little jealousy too because in the beginning she started to shit herself on purpose, took his bottles and pacifiers and put them in her mouth and tried to crawl into his swing a few times nearly breaking it.

The boy, he's just a flat out bully, he never bothered with the baby, didn't take any interest in him and then one day just got up out of his seat in the van and smacked the poor little guy so hard he left a bruise. He felt no remorse and had no expression on his face when he did it.

All I could do was tell their father that they never be left alone with him, not even for a second and that they were not allowed to touch him and have to stay so many feet away from him, SO agreed with that and said it was understandable. Those kids have completely damaged the trust there and I'm unsure if either will ever gain it back. The boy bullies others too, other kids at school espesh girls (he's been suspended nearly 10 times for being abusive and the kid is 8 years old!) and he is completely mean to animals, he's abused my poor small poodle before for no reason, will hit her with sticks or toys, kicked her in the head and the belly, both children are not allowed to touch my animals either because of their bullying.

Ifeeya's picture

Whenever you feel like having kid with your DH with skids, ask yourself this: Do you want your own kid to experience these kind of drama?