Update to Letter Gate 2020
So thank you again to everybody who commented and just validated the way I was feeling after reading the letters from Spawn.
Wednesday was a total sh*thole day and getting those letters from Spawn was just the extra sh*t I didn't want or need that day.
A very close family member is going to have to have some testing to see if they do or do not have C, I can't even say it because it scares me so damn bad to think they might. I found this out on Wednesday afternoon and ugly cried to my poor coworker who will probably never ask me if I am okay ever again. So Spawns timing was just impeccable as always!
DH has decided that he is going to open the line of communications with Spawn, I support him on this, as that is his daughter, but I told him I am a flat out no! I don't want anything to do with her, maybe years from now if she can show she's really grown and matured I might reconsider. DH says he respects my feelings, but lets wait and see what happens once he's communicating with her again.
I showed the letters to BD and BS. BD response was "what does she want now! I mean why after 5 years suddenly she wants back in our lives?" I told her that is the million dollar question we all have. BS stated "Her letter to DH is manipulative, her letter to you is melodramatic, and I think she's pregnant."
So there you have it, family member has a PET scan scheduled for March and so far seems in good spirits so I'm trying to vibe off of that and not be overly stressed. As for the Spawn stuff I have made my choice so for me from here on out it's really no longer my issue but his.