OT - It takes one to know one
My Aunt is a SM and last week her husband (20 years her senior) passed away after being in poor health for many years. She currently lives in the state where his children reside so they could be near the grandchildren. With him now gone my Aunt is moving back to our state so she can be near her family.
My Aunt has been in her SK's lives since they were kids. I always though she was the coolest Aunt because she would do all these fun creative things and I was jealous she wasn't my mom. I remember when the the skids would come visit over the summer she would re-create holidays so they could have them with their father. I was always jealous....but you know the drill, the skids hated her and could have cared less.
I was talking with my Mother the other day and she was telling me about how the SS is causing a stink because he didn't want his father's ashed interred until he can throw this huge family party. With the whole COVID that won't happen for a couple of months. My Aunt told him she wants her husband's ashes interred now so that she can start preparing to move. They argued a bit over it and he finally allowed her to inter her husband's ashes. My Mother was also telling me about how the skids are all okay with their mother's new boyfriend who they just met, yet they can't even be civil to my Aunt who had been with my Uncle for 20 plus years. I just laughed and told her my Aunt and I would have a lot of things to talk about when she gets here. My Mother sort of pulled a face and I told her it was nothing personal, but unless and until you have been in the SM trenches you really can't understand. I know she didn't like that since my Mother likes to think she knows everything, but reality is she will never understand what it's like to be a SM.