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SD came over today

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I am working a 12 hour shift so I didn't have to see her, thank goodness. But BM's boyfriend dropped her off at 930 and BM picked her up right before 5. BM then texted DH this morning and said they could "talk" about him seeing SD tomorrow. I don't remember what the CO says about Xmas Eve and day but I told DH it's all just a game.

Poll: will my marriage last?

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I guess I'm just a ball of emotions but DH just texted me and asked me to get SD a ticket for the movie we were supposed to see in less than 2 hours. I just screenshotted him the barcode and told him that he and SD can go alone. He says that we won't go then if I'm not going and I say ok. Then in my anger, I tell him that he can have his relationship with SD and to not involve me. He says that that will help our future and I told him that I'm sick of his past always reminding me that I'll never have a normal family. I want to stay for our daughter but I am really becoming resentful.

BM's texts to DH

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She "wants to talk" as per usual. She said "SD would love to see him" and he's "keeping her in the dark" and she wants to know what the state police officer and CPS lady said. DH just told her that the last thing he heard was they're supposed to talk to her and everyone thinks he's an abusive alcoholic.

SD thinks it's all her fault

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She called DH crying and said that her friends told her this whole situation is her fault and that only BM says she can't see DH and she knows that she's always welcome at our house. SD's friends are being mean to her and teasing her and making school hard for her. Now DH is stressed and upset because BM is still keeping SD from him and says BM needs a "psych evaluation". That probably won't happen. The CPS worker still hasn't come to our house. Merry f-ing Xmas..

Child support evaluation question

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I know you all think I'm crazy but bear with me: if DH lets BM keep primary custody but asks for an evaluation while SD is still in private school, will the tuition still be considered? They had decided that SD will go to public school in August. However, if after this CPS crap blows over and he goes to court to sort everything out, what should he expect as far as this being factored in before she's changed schools? My guess is he has pissed BM off and she'll push to keep SD in private school for higher CS and because SD has been going to the same school for 8 years.

Could DH be CP?

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After all of this CPS mess and BM keeping SD away? He isnt willing to coparent anymore and when this finally does go to court to be reviewed, he plans to take months and years of proof that he and BM just can't coparent together.

Just the other day when we he told me about the talk with the detective, I found out that SD was caught skipping her last period class a couple weeks ago and BM never told DH about it. DH found out from the vice principal after the fact. BM only wants DH to back her up when she can't handle a situation and never informs him of things like this.

CPS visit tomorrow

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The investigator finally called DH back and is coming tomorrow morning around 10am. I will be at work. I organized a little and dusted the living room and cleaned the glass. Thank goodness I deep cleaned last weekend. DH just has to do the dishes and sweep in the morning. I was unnecessarily rude to DH this evening because of it but I've also been up since 4am and didn't get a nap and have to be up at 4am again tomorrow.

DH said BM was never told to keep SD from him

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That's the power of a phone call. Now he told me he doesn't know what to do. I told him he can text BM (key word: TEXT-obviously for documentation) and tell her they can resume 50/50 on Monday at 3pm as per the 50/50 verbal agreement or pick her up on Sunday from 9-4 then Monday and Tuesday from 4-6pm as in the CO.

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