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OT: Breast Cancer and Heredity

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Submitted by Ninji on Mon, 06/19/2017 - 9:40am

DH told me last week that his mother text him saying she was going to have mammogram done.

I asked him if it was routine or did she have a concern. He told me that she had breast cancer in the past and was in remission. I told DH that SD would need to know this information when she getting older for her medical records.

FF to this weekend. We were over at FIL's house and he asked DH and BIL if they have spoken to their mother (DH's mother and FIL are divorced). FIL tells them that she has to have both of her breast removed.

Skids "Home"??

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Submitted by Ninji on Wed, 06/14/2017 - 9:00am

I'm still thinking about Gunner's situation and how his wife told the therapist that she doesn't consider his kids as living in their home.

To be honest, I feel this way about SD (and SS before he moved in full time)

SS the thief

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Submitted by Ninji on Tue, 06/13/2017 - 8:26am

Last week I went to bed around 9pm and told DH and kids good night.

20ish minutes later I get back up to get a drink of water and because I see a random light on in the kitchen that shouldn't be. (Both kids should have been getting ready for bed and DH was in his room)

I find SS stealing food (junk food) from us again. This is the third time that we have outright caught him.

Changing the CO

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Submitted by Ninji on Wed, 06/07/2017 - 8:43am

BM did sign the change to the CO. I'm still in shock.

Quick question. Does this make everything on the old CO null and void?

The old CO stated the DH paid all health care and $825 a month CS. It also stated his custody days and what the holiday schedule would look like. Also that DH would provide all transportation. That was about it.

The new CO states the new CS amount, the new custody times for each child with the NCP parent and that each parent would provide transportation for their custody time.

The Good, the Bad and the Weird

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Submitted by Ninji on Thu, 06/01/2017 - 8:22am

The Good

DH found out that BM got the paperwork from the lawyer yesterday. She has agreed to sign it without fighting us. MIRCLES DO HAPPEN!!!....but then she asked if she could claim SS is still living with her because she is applying for welfare now that she is getting divorced. She also questioned him about Health Care for the kids. He told her he doesn’t even have a job right now so she's lucky she's getting what she is.

The Bad

Friday was supposed to be the start of a good week.

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Submitted by Ninji on Wed, 05/31/2017 - 10:09am

Last Friday Skid went to BM for the week and we get them back this coming Friday.

It was nice for about 4hrs. Then DH gets a call that he's been laid off. We are already struggling to pay the bills, full CS to BM and pay a lawyer to get everything changed.

So, of course we've been really stressed out. DH has 26yrs in his career field, but the economy here hasn't really recovered with regards to pay. Most places are only offering him $15hr. Which he will have to take but that is a $9 cut from what he was making last summer.

Summer suggestions

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Submitted by Ninji on Mon, 05/22/2017 - 11:28am

Skids (SD13 and SS11) are old enough (for the first time) to spend the summer week on week off between our house and BM. They will be alone during the day while we are at work.

I'm trying to think of some things we can have them do. Summer camp is out. SS cannot behave and will get kicked out. Waste of money.

BM lets them just sit in front of scenes all day. That does keep them occupied.

And here we go again.

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Submitted by Ninji on Mon, 05/15/2017 - 9:18am

It's been 4 short weeks since BM and stepdad split.

And surprise surprise she already has a new guy in the kids lives. Same old story different day. I've long ago lost count on how many men those poor kids have been exposed to.

When we pulled up to drop SS off on Friday, a strange black truck was in the driveway. SS said "oh no, this isn't going to be good". I told DH (after SS got out of the car) that she has a new guy in the house already.

Stepparents can't win

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Submitted by Ninji on Thu, 05/11/2017 - 12:08pm

I was reading some archives off a different site about stepparents. Most of the post were from stepchildren.

Here are some of their complaints...

Smom redecorated the house. It was the "family" (BM, DH and skids) house. After skid went away to college. Skid never felt at home again.

Smom didn't love them like her own. Super evil smom

Smom did love them like her own. Didn't she know they already had a mom?

Smom deferred to dad when skids weren't doing chores.

Smom shouldn't be an authority at all in her home.

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