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BM's Greed Knows No Boundaries

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Just received the following text from BM (Why she sent it to me instead of DH, I have no idea): "Completely, the girls told me that DH has a new job. I know that his new profession makes more money than he used too. I will be bringing that up in the hearing next month. How can you be married to such a loser? He barely supports his kids. You better not have any with him."

And this is why I didn't go to the pick up!!

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BM texted DH today, "I don't know why I am surprised Completely doesn't care. She couldn't even be bothered to come with you to pick up your kids. I told you I needed to talk to her."

By talk to me, she means she needed to instruct me on how to parent her kids! Um, no thank you. I am not the one who is homeless and has an open investigation with CPS. I think I can do just fine without your specific instructions.

7 Layers of Padded, Push up bras!!!

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So we just got the SDs back for summer vacation. SD11 is old enough that she needs to wear a bra. BM sent me a message, telling me that SD needed bras and that she would send some with her. DH responded and told her that we would take her shopping. We didn't want SDs bringing anything from BM's house. We planned to take them as soon as we got back to our home state. If you remember, her house was condemned for being too filthy. And, the school has complained to DH that the SDs have cockroaches in their backpacks sometimes. So we don't allow anything to come from BM's house to ours.

False Abuse Allegations and Blackmail

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I haven't written on here b/c we are going to court in the summer for full custody of the kids After the courts handed them back to BM, we decided to just keep to ourselves about it. Well BM just can't stop herself from stirring the pot. She has to check in with CPS once a week. DH and I came back to our home state in March. BM took the girls to the CPS worker later that week and got them to say that DH abused them. Apparently, he even went so far as to tackle SD11. Also, she is claiming we left them alone in the house for hours on end. The girls lied and backed this story up.

SD went nuts...

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I haven't written on here lately because so much was going on. DH and I filed for full custody of the SDs. We actually won temporary custody. However, the SDs are back with their mom. I am still processing what happened. DH and I agreed to stay in the girls' home state for three months until school was finished and then we would go to court to decide if they would move with us to our home state after the school year ended.

A Big Mess

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My MIL went to the school last week and complained to the principal about the SDs having head lice and being dirty all the time. She also told the school about the living conditions at BM's house. The SDs had told her some alarming facts during their visit the past weekend (head lice, broken out windows, a raccoon that was running through BM's house, lead in the water, and some issues with BM disappearing for hours at a time). Also, they have both now missed over 20 days of school The school told her that they had previously filed a complaint with Child Protective Services.

DH is not the SDs dad??? When did that happen?

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Okay ladies. A little background. BM is one of those moms that forces her daughters to refer to their SF as dad. It annoys DH, but the SF has been around for a while so he has learned to deal. And then yesterday, DH made a call to the school to find out about what the school plans to do about SD11 missing 22 days of school so far this year.

The receptionist at the school told DH that she couldn't tell him anything because he isn't listed on the contact form. DH's response, "I am their father. And, I was on the forms last year."

BM is crazy

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I received the following message from BM tonight:

"If you ever yell at my kid again, I will kick you in the vag"

Seriously???? I have no idea what she is talking about. The only thing I can think about is that I told SD11 to stop whining once while she was here. For the most part, DH handles the discipline for SDs. I did yell at the kids (my bios and SDs) to be quiet a couple of times while I was trying to sleep.

Not sure how to handle this. Of course, I am not going to respond. Any ideas???

SD9 is a brat and DH is clueless! (Long)

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My DH and I had the SDs last week for the second half of Christmas break. We just returned them to their mom who lives in another state. Last week, we had SD9 and SD11 and my two bios: BS9 and BD3. For the most part, it went well. My DH really stayed vigilant with SD11 about her attitude. And she behaved really well. My big issue is with SD9. She is a major problem in our household. SD9 will not listen. She does whatever she wants. But, she is sneaky about it. She waits until you are not looking. I work nights so I have to sleep during the day.

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