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Where is my birthday gift???

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SD12 has finally come out from hiding and called DH last night. I knew something was up because BM's number called our house about 12 times last night. We were gone when it happened. When we saw that, I told DH to call BM back b/c she never calls here unless something is going on. SD9 was getting ready for bed and didn't seem interested in talking to BM. When he got ahold of her, BM snapped, "Where have you been? Dont you answer your phone?" To which DH replied, "What do you want, BM?" She handed the phone to SD12, who didn't even say hi.

BM's Fake Itinerary

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The cops did go out to BM's house to talk to her. They also spoke with SD12, who was not at school for the fourth day in a row. BM claimed that SD12 was sick, but the cop told DH that she seemed okay. BM claims that someone hacked her email and sent the itinerary. She told the cops that it was probably DH! She told them that he pulls this all the time and he has been trying to win back SD12. Have I ever mentioned before that this woman is delusional??

I can't handle this

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"I can't handle this anymore." These were the words that BM said to DH in regards to SD12. She called today to talk to SD9 (or at least that was her cover for calling). At the end of the call, she asked to talk to DH. She tells him that SD12 is failing most of her classes and is a behavior problem. BM said that SD12 is out in the evening and won't come home. She is late for school every morning b/c she refuses to get up and it results in a 2+ hour fight. And apparently, she has ramped up her fits and is very violent, going so far as to bite her SF.

Update to BM in my living room

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I read most of the comments to my blog. Thank you to everyone for the good advice. I just want to say that I was livid when I walked in and saw her sitting there. I turned to DH, pointed at BM and told him in no uncertain terms to get that out of my house. Then I went in my room to change. She was gone when I came back out. Of course, SD9 was crying b/c DH made her leave and because he was lecturing SD9 about opening the door and letting people in without our permission.

Woke up to find BM in my living room...

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DH and I got up this morning to find BM sitting in our living room. That's right. She drove the 900 miles to see SD9 (she usually can't be bothered to pick up the phone and talk to her). The C/O states that she does have the right to visit with SD9 for one week out of every quarter in our home state. She has to give DH 3 weeks notice in writing that she is coming so they can work out of a schedule. She didn't give us any notice. In fact, she just knocked on the door and SD9 let her in. They were sitting on my couch talking when I woke up.

SD12's school called DH

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If you have followed my blogs, you know that SD12 went back to live with BM after terrorizing our house and running away. She kept saying that DH was abusing her b/c we :gasp: made her go to school, do chores, and do her homework. BM told DH that SD12 was only failing because he didn't know how to handle her. Well the school called DH because they are unable to get in touch with BM and she listed him as an alternate contact on the school forms. They wanted to know why a parent hasn't come into the school to discuss SD12's attendance issues.

Crazy lady sent candy to my bios???

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We have been having problems with SD9's grandma (BM's mom). This lady is crazy. She has been harassing us since we won custody back in August. She calls the house at random times and leaves these scary, threatening voicemails. She somehow got my stepmom's cell phone number and used one of those caller ID spoofing services to call my house. I picked up the phone, thinking it was my SM. She started screaming at me, accusing me and DH of abusing SD11. She ended that call by threatening to shoot me. At this point, we contacted our attorney and he advised us to cut contact with her.

I am so mad at BM

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We are going on week 3 since BM has spoken to her daughter. And of course, it hurts SD9. DH and I try to keep her mind on other things. But, we both literally cringe when SD9 asks to call her mom. She has called BM at least 5 or 6 times in the last 2 weeks. And, BM can't be bothered to find 5 minutes to call her daughter. I just don't understand it.

But my mom never calls me...

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Tonight, I was eating dinner at the table with SD9. DH was working so it was just the two of us. Suddenly, she asks me why I call my bios every night when they are with their dad. I explained to her that I miss them and like to hear about their day. She didn't say anything for a while, but then she said, "You see bios every week. My mom only sees me in the summer and on Christmas. She doesn't call me."

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