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Submitted by CompletelyPuzzled on Fri, 03/07/2014 - 3:09pm

I have a question that is completely separate from my usual blogs about BM. My DF and I have been dealing with an issue from another of his exes. Before we started dating, he dated another woman. They were together for about four years before he broke it off. The break-up was hard on her. She didn't want to break up but my DF was tired of all the issues. He said it was like having another kid around to take care of. She moved out and started living with someone else. And for almost a year, we have heard nothing from her. Until three weeks ago. It started with messages on oovoo.

Never Say Thanks to BM

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Submitted by CompletelyPuzzled on Mon, 03/03/2014 - 9:30am

Last night, DF called BM to talk to the girls. They have been having some major behavior problems with SD7. She wouldn't get on the phone. DF starts to talk to BM about the issues and she decides to just sweep them under the rug. "Oh DF, I never have that issue with SD7 at my house." The funny thing is that SD9 was in the room and was in the background saying, "Yes she does mom. Don't lie to dad." DF asked BM to go into a room where SD9 wasn't listening. They continue talking about it and she tells him about the issues with the SDs missing days of school.

Head Lice, Head Lice and More Head Lice!!!

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Submitted by CompletelyPuzzled on Sat, 03/01/2014 - 9:26pm

I am so freaking mad right now that I want to slap BM. The SDs went to stay with DF's mom. She brushed through their hair and sure enough, they have head lice again! I don't know why I am surprised. Every time that we get them, they have it. DF has tried turning it over to CPS and we have gotten nowhere. We brought it up in our recent court case. It was swept under the rug. It gets so frustrating because the SDs are having to live with it. SD9 told her grandma that her and her siblings were sent home from school again on Friday for having it. This is the 7th time this year!

Please Don't Marry Her Daddy...OMG!

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Submitted by CompletelyPuzzled on Fri, 02/28/2014 - 11:36am

DF and I were chatting with the SDs yesterday when SD7 came off with, "Please don't marry her daddy." It was odd b/c it was out of the blue. It is not the first time that SD7 has said something like that to DF before. However, we both know that SD7 is manipulative and is being fed a line of bs by her BM. This time it was particularly hard b/c when DF asked SD7 why she was saying these things, she told him that her BM told her all kinds of lies. Apparently, BM has convinced SD7 that if I just disappear, DF can come back to the state he used to live in.

Does anyone else deal with this from BM?

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Submitted by CompletelyPuzzled on Tue, 02/25/2014 - 10:17am

If you have been following my blog, then you know that DF finally put BM in her place a few days ago. You would think that having him put her in her place would make her not want to talk to him. Oh no, not this BM. It has made her more clingy. She has this bad habit of trying to talk to DF whenever he calls or picks up the girls. Do any of you deal with this?

DF finally confronts BM!

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Submitted by CompletelyPuzzled on Fri, 02/21/2014 - 9:57am

BM has been on a continuing mission to get me and DF to agree to let her go with us when we take the SDs and my two kids on vacation. She has sent texts and even put her own daughter up to asking. Finally last night, she called and talked to DF. She told him that she didn't think it was fair that she was going to miss out on the girl's first real vacation. And, she told him that it was unfair to the rest of her kids. At one point, she threatened to just show up at our house. Uh, Hell no!

BM's continuing saga to go on vacation...

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Submitted by CompletelyPuzzled on Thu, 02/20/2014 - 10:36am

Yesterday, I blogged about how DF got a text from BM asking if we would let her and BigWeirdo stay with us over the summer so they could take the kids on vacation. We ignored her, so she took it to another level last night. DF called to speak to his kids. While he was on the phone, we could hear BM and BigWeirdo in the background discussing our vacation. I feel like this was purposely done.

As DF was saying goodbye, SD9 says "Dad, you're not being very nice, not letting mom and BigWeirdo come to ___________ with us."

Really BM? Are you Insane? Oh Wait...Yes!

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Submitted by CompletelyPuzzled on Wed, 02/19/2014 - 1:41pm

So today BM sends DF the following text message:

"Hey DF, SD7 AND SD9 told me that you are planning to take them to ________ this year. I think this is something they should experience with both of their parents. BigWeirdo and I can afford to bring our other three kids t0 ________ but we have no place to stay. Maybe we could stay with you guys at your house. Or you should help pay for a hotel so I can be a part of this to."

Do you care about anything else?

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Submitted by CompletelyPuzzled on Sat, 02/01/2014 - 8:59pm

BM has been blowing up our phones the last couple of days b/c her child support is late. This woman NEVER calls us. Even when SD7 was sent home extremely ill and had to go to ER, we didn't get a phone call. Instead, she called DF's mom and told her. But, the child support is late for the first time since I have been involved with DF, and she is freaking out. And, it is kind of funny really b/c it isn't our fault. My DF got tired of her games and had the state start taking it out of his pay. Well guess what, the state is behind and she hasn't received her first check. LOL.

BM tried to upset me but....

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Submitted by CompletelyPuzzled on Fri, 01/24/2014 - 11:19pm

DF called BM tonight and asked to speak with SDs. I knew this was going to be a problem b/c she had already been texting about her child support. As soon as she answers the phone, BM starts screaming at DF about the child support check. DF says calmly, "BM, I called to speak to the girls, not you." So she starts yelling at him about being civil. Then she has the nerve to say, "You need to support your kids." Really, bitch? Did you just go there? DF works two jobs and sends 1/3 of his pay to her.

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