Another OT- What concerts/musicial performances have you been to? adding more words to post.....

I really hope I can word this right because I know it's possibly that I will get a lot of feedback on this. The whole "not my kid, not my problem", double standards, etc.

So do you think as a parent that has a minor child living in your home at least 50% of the time that its okay to marry a spouse that doesn't like your child or have any interest in that child's life?

If you could create the perfect skid, what would he/she be like?

And if the skid isn't "perfect" what issues/behaviors could you accept?

Often at times I read posts and it just seems like ANYTHING that the skid does warrants the SP to have issue with the skids. A lot of it is typical behavior of kids. Sometimes we bitch about something that our skid does, then turn around and brush it under the rug when our own bio does it. (I know a lot of this comes from dealing with shitty behavior prior which results in being annoyed at the little things.)

I have a hard time thinking of my DH's kids as "his kids".

When people tell stories about their kids, good or bad I can understand what they are saying because they are that person's kids. I am a mother myself so I understand why they feel/do the things they do for their own children.

You would think because I love my DH that I would maybe think more kindly of his kids, be able to "relate" a little more to the things that they do. Maybe have some more love, understanding or compassion? Such as I do for other people's kids.