My poor SMIL (OT Vent)
25 years ago, she adopted a 6 week old baby while working at a troubled children's home.
She raised him as her own, on her own, and loved him with everything she had.
She then adopted 2 little girls, ages 3 & 4, when he was 16.
SMIL met and married FIL when he was 18.
He got into HEAVILY into drugs.
He molested the youngest (SIL2) when she was 8.
SMIL paid $15K for him to go to rehab, thinking it happened because he was high.
He broke out.
He tried to rob an old lady bringing in her groceries
He was put on felony probation
He tried to kill FIL, DH, the girls, and SMIL.
He had a gun
FIL turned him in
He went to prison.
SMIL and FIL moved the family out of state (with DH and BM)
SMIL tried to get him help in prison
He got out
He was on parole, he went down to visit SMIL. He nearly broke SIL2's leg.
SMIL sent him home.
He ran off and absconded from his parole
They gave him a slap on the wrist
He got off parole
He started living in the homeless shelter
He moved in with SMIL's best friend and her wife. SMIL adopted another girl, age 11)
He decided he didn't like their rules and moved back into the homeless shelter.
He moved down to where SMIL lives now
Expected her to take him in. She sent him to the homeless shelter. Said he needed to earn her trust back.
He asked if he could stay with them for the week of his birthday. (last week of October and first few days of November)
SMIL allowed him to. Any time the girls were around, she was right there keeping an eye on all of them.
Day after Halloween, he and SMIL got in a huge fight. He called my baby sister (who is 12!) a whore. He burned her Halloween costume. He stole their game systems and left notes saying the girls are all little sluts and pole dancers in training (I've known these girls for 3 years now. They are the sweetest things I've ever met.) where the girls would find them. Stole
SMIL is now in a depression, she feels she failed as a mother and has no right raising her 3 girls. She apparently hasn't gotten out of bed in a few days (she's normally first one up and ready to go in the morning. She is really a great mom. I go to her about everything. DH says she's more his mom then his bio mom ever has been)
I just want to hug her and tell her it's not her fault he turned into such a bad apple.
He's not allowed anywhere near the family anymore. SMIL is done.
Just my vent for the day before I explode. I know it's not Christian... but I hope he never gets saved and burns for what he's done to SIL2 and MIL.