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BM Contact and Bad Behavior

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Has anyone else noticed that their skid acts like a complete ass following a phone call from BM? We don't know what was said because we don't monitor SS15's calls with his mom, but we're interested to know. In the days following that call, he's broken pretty much every rule we have and basically ignored everyone in the house.

DON'T FORGET TO CALL MOM!!!

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Another blog reminded me of something that's been going on in our home with SS15 for quite some time.

When SS is with BM for "her" two weeks, it's radio silence from SS15. He has NEVER initiated a phone call once to speak to DH (much less anyone else who lives here). If DH calls, sometimes he'll answer, sometimes not. He usually will call back if DH leaves a voice mail, but not always.

Looking for Opinions-A Post from the BM Side of the Fence

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My ex and I divorced shortly after ourr BS (now 17) turned 3. BD never had much to do with BS unless he was with someone who encouraged him to exercise visitation. He was in a relationship for about 10 years with someone who was verbally and emotionally abusive to BS, and I spent the entire time and tens of thousands of dollars in court trying to get him out of there. (Unfortunately, the family court judge I had was seriously father's rights-centered). When BS turned 13, the GF finally broke off that relationship but the damage to BS and his father's relationship had already been done.

BM's Mother's Day Tantrum

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As I posted in my blog, BM sent DH a text stating when she would be picking SS15 up and dropping him off on Mother's Day. There was no, "Does this work for you?" or any other common courtesy. Just her usual demand- this is what WILL happen. I expect you to bend to my will.

Nope!

DH didn't even respond. We waited to see what would happen and went about with our plans (a BBQ at my sister's place with Mom and Grandma. Fun time!). Sure enough, a text came in at 4:40 pm, ten minutes after BM's demanded drop-off time:

BM Trying to Control Our Schedule

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I'm a blog hog today. Sorry, but I'm in a snatchy sort of mood and just feel like bitching.

BM sent DH an email last night:

DHName- I will be picking SS15 up at 9 am on Sunday for Mother's Day and dropping him off at 4:30. -It

No, "Does this work for you." No, "Are these times good?" No common courtesy. As usual. Of course.

DH wanted to respond telling her this, but you know what? Eff it. She doesn't deserve our courtesy.

How to Be the Worst BM Ever in 15 Easy Steps

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Pulled from the Borderline BM Handbook of Awesome Parenting:

1. Be sure to feign serious illness or threaten suicide at least once a year. Milk it for all the sympathy you can get before you "miraculaously" get all better. Make sure your kids know all about said dread disease or suicide attempt so they're terrified. That way, they'll appreciate you more.

2. Use PAS against not only your child's father, but anyone else important in his or her life you isn't you. Except your new BF or DH. He's special, and completely in a different category than the SM.

O/T- Walking Dead Finale- POSSIBLE SPOILERS

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Talk to me, peeps! Did you love it or hate it?

I thought it was a. Great episode. Except we don't know what happened to Beth, and we don't know where Carol, Tyreese and Judith are.

I thought Rick's explanation with the rabbit trap, and how "the trail leads to the trap," was a perfect explanation for Terminus. I knew exactly where that one was going.

Rick going savage? Understandable. I'm glad the old Rick is back, with added spine.

Being herded onto the train car was creepily reminiscent of the Holocaust. That gave me chills.

BM's Response to SS14 Stealing?

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Not punishment. Of course not. Not making SS14 take responsibility for his actions. Heaven forbid! No, instead DH gets this email:

DHName-

It is obvious that SS14 is acting out because he's under so much pressure at your house. He can't handle the responsibilities you place on him. He feels he can't talk to you and is afraid of you. I really believe it would be in his best interest to live with SF and I full time and visit you every other weekend. I also think he should have 2 or 3 sessions with Faux's therapist to work out his issues.

SheBeast

The Return of SS14

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He'll. return after his normal two weeks with BM this afternoon after school. Last time he arrived, he was an ass to us all. Wouldn't talk to us, look at us, sat across the room with his arms folded across his chest, etc. basically, he was displaying all the signs of PAS that FauxSS9 was before he stopped being in our life altogether. DH and I are going to see if it happens again. If it does, we're going to see how long it lasts. If it continues, we're going to have a nice long discussion about PAS. He's old enough.

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