So many wtf holiday memories!
Since graduating from stepmom not-give-a-flip university, all has been calm on the skid front, until the IL Christmas grinch-a-bration.
Back in May when DH's grandma passed, MIL announced that DGD (BIL's DD12) started calling BIL's wife "mom", and MIL thought that was just so awesome. And of course MIL was trying to get me upset that DH's kids weren't calling me mom. If she only knew...HAHAHAHAHAHA!
Oh and BEFORE BIL and bio-mom divorced, MIL thought the sun rose and set on bio-mom. Now bio-mom probably ranks only slightly higher on MIL's list than I.
I thought it was awful and not appropriate, but kept my mouth shut. Yeah, call stepmom an affectionate mom-ish nickname, but Mom is reserved for bio-mom, if bio-mom is present, "decent" and active parent, etc. JMO.
FF to Christmas grinch-a-bration and BIL, SIL, his DS18, DS15 and DD12 are all there. BIL's DD12 was sitting on a window bench seat and knocking over all the Christmas knick knacks repeatedly, even though there were seats available all over the place. MIL laughed it off and said she could destroy whatever knick knacks were there, MIL/GMA was okay with it.
Then SIL and I got in a good conversation. SD12 kept walking by us and going back and forth, pacing. Then she'd interrupt us asking SIL some stupid question, always starting with "Mom.....". She was just sucking all the energy out of SIL and I could tell she was getting stressed. SIL told me that SD12 told her that she "thought bio-mom was jealous of SIL". SIL and I kept trying to have a conversation but after multiple rude interruptions from SD12, I gave up and got a wine refill.
Call me a cynic, but this girl is manipulating SIL and bio-mom and playing them against each other to compete for her affections. She can't stand not being the center of attention. She is going to be a high maintenance teen to deal with! Oh my.