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My first Mother's Day, when I'm technically not even a mother!!

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SO and I have been together for a year now. Last year we started dating around early May so I didn't have to deal with the Mother's day issue. This year will be the first Mother's day with them so far. To recap, I have no biological children of my own. I have a SD6 which we have full-time. SD6 was supposed to go to her BM (3 states away) for a month this summer. I have insisted my SO stay firm on requiring her to have a drug test before SD6 goes down there.

Woooo hooo! I'm going out of state for 2 weeks!!!!!

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My sister's husband was in an explosion accident at work and has been in ICU for a week now. They have a 2 yr old and a 11month old and she is currently pregnant. Whew! Lots of kids back to back I know. She called me tonight begging me to fly a couple states away to my homestate and help her, so she could be with her husband at the hospital and I would look after her kids. She offered to pay for everything just to have help. They make good money, BTW! I was thrilled to accept!!!!

I need everyone's help!!!!

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Ok so to get a little insight into my situation, go back and read my previous blogs. I am 27 and have no biological children of my own. I feel like I am comfortable enough in my role at stepmom to start implementing some rules and boundaries. My SO doesn't really have that many in place now. So SD6 is basically like a mini-adult in our house. She is an only child and her BM is nowhere around and hardly ever sees her. SO backs her up and says how much he hated not being able to decide things for the family when he was a child.

Part 2, first blog!!!

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Anyways, although I love this little girl to death, her behaviors are starting to make me not like her or like to be around her. I once heard her say to her GMA "I will hit you in the face if you make me put a jacket on for school." OMG!!!! :jawdrop: I was so upset, but said nothing bc no one else said a word to her either. I couldn't believe it! She would get upset when DH would show any affection towards me, so he has stopped altogether in front of her since we have moved in together. I just dont understand how a 6yr old could rule your life like this.

Part 1, first blog!!!!

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I refuse to let this go on any longer. I have been an observer here and haven't ever posted my own blog, but I feel it will help me to get some frustration out so here it goes. Nobody understands what I am going through except for you guys! I have no biological children of my own. I have a SD6 and my boyfriend has full custody of her. BM didn't show up to her final court hearing, so therefore she lost all parental rights. She has very little to do with her and did when they lived about 2 miles apart.