I might be an adult StepKid
My Dad passed 14 years ago from cancer. He and my mom were very much in love. He was a great man, I see a lot of him in my DH.
Recently my Mom has started dating. At first it was exciting, I helped her get over some emotional humps regarding my Dad and her relationship really took off after that.
My mom went away for a retreat and when she returned we'd made plans for a phone conversation (they weren't allowed phones at the retreat and she lives hours away from me). I called and called her and she never answered. I found out later she'd gone out with her bf and intentionally left her phone at home.
I was hurt, and angry. I told her this. It wasn't so much that she spent time with him instead, but that she didn't even text me to tell me she was leaving her phone at home. Luckily my brother was staying at her house watching her cat so he told me she was fine.
Since then, I can't get on board with her bf. They are coming to visit for my SS10's birthday and honestly I'm dreading it. He seems nice, all my other siblings have met him and like him. My little brother said it's annoying never being able to talk to my Mom alone anymore but he's happy she's happy.
I'm happy she's happy too. Honestly. I'd been encouraging her to date for years. But I have this feeling of neglect associated with their relationship now.
It's stupid. I know this. I read these posts on here and I'm sure as hell not going to be one of those grown spoiled step kids. I would never, ever tell my Mom or her BF these feelings and I'll try my darndest not to show it. But still, I just want to get the f over it.
Anyone have some "forgiving" advice so I can just enjoy their company when they visit and form an honest opinion of the man before I write him off due to my Mom not taking my call for one day? (See how stupid that sounds?)