Another blog post- sorry guys. I just love the support and the insight. Although I'm getting closer to "getting it" all the time, your experience and knowledge has been so helpful for DH and I.
After the pretrial/conference there were 2 general "conclusions" from the judge.
1 was that DH should be imputed income, decidedly because he did not believe DH was honest in how much work I did for the company and that our 51/49 partnership was inaccurate.
2 was that the counselor would be presented with a letter outlining their legal obligations.
So first off, DH took SS10 to counseling this week and booked his next session afterwards. After that, they had their pretrial/conference and BM said during it that the counselor suggested each session be 3 weeks apart. DH had booked his session 2 weeks apart so he emailed the counselor after the pretrial the make sure it was alright. She confirmed it was but said she was sending a progress email to follow up.
Her email said she would like to meet with DH & BM together, without SS10. The purpose of that meeting would be to get them on the same page. The counselor said she would then like to work out a plan between the current schedule and getting to 50/50 and once that plan was in place she would be comfortable helping SS10 start the transition.
Well that email put BM and her lawyer in a tizzy. BM's lawyer drafted a super bias letter to the counselor for DH's lawyer to review (DH received the email chain) and DH's lawyer put it back into neutral zone. BM's lawyer comes back with a letter twice as bias as before. She then insists it be on her offices letterhead stating that BM's view of the counselor was right so the letter shouldn't come from DH's lawyer.
DH's lawyer responded by saying they need to get the judge back on the phone and they can each present their letter to him and let him pick. Lol.
DH sent his lawyer an email shortly afterwards and asked what would happen if he (DH) sent the C&A interviewer an email requesting clarification of the counselor's role.
Then DH went outside to clean up the truck and his lawyer and wife were walking by outside the house. His lawyer said they needed to go for ice cream to unwind after the email exchange from BM's HC lawyer.
How do you handle a high conflict lawyer?
This is a mess