Going down a rabbit hole
My email is nearing its limits, so I was cleaning my inbox up using key words.
I came across a letter from our lawyer to the law society after BM had filed a complaint on him. That lead me back to reading the email she sent where she told DH she sent the complaint. That email also caused the cease and desist order on BM and she hasn't been allowed to email anything like that to DH since. Thank fucking goodness.
In her email to DH she was upset because DH was keeping SS11 to begin a week on, week off schedule when school was cancelled due to the pandemic. BM had thought that by withholding SS11's medication from DH he would be forced to return him. She didn't realize DH had extras leftover from the summer prior. BM's email specifically says that DH "should NEVER have extras since SS11 needs his medication daily". That email was sent about a year ago. Since then SS11 has missed his medication in her care the equivalent of 2.5 months. I had forgot she wrote that so adamantly in her email, so we'll keep that in our back pocket if things don't smarten up for the next school year.
I also read the emails BM's lawyer sent our lawyer, apologizing for BM's law society complaint and claiming she knew nothing about it. That particular email is what ended up getting the complaint thrown out, as BM indicated in her complaint that she had discussed filing it with her legal counsel.
It's funny how hard BM tried to be a "good mom" and put on a show when we were going through court but literally doesn't gaf about being a parent now.
Oh and an update about the swim shorts. DH picked up the biggest size of shorts they sold and SS11 said they fit and wore them 2 weeks ago. Then, this last weekend he puts them on and says that I packed his old suit cause they didn't fit! After discovering that I had packed the right ones, he back tracked and said it was just because they were new and they'll stretch out while he swims. His whole butt crack was hanging out! I asked him to change into his regular swim shorts but he refused and it wasn't my crack everyone would be seeing so I didn't push. He told me later that they fit fine during swimming. We asked him what shorts he wears with BM and he said she special orders them in a bigger size from a sports site. When we asked him what he would wear for competition he just shrugged and said he would either wear the ones from our house or wouldn't compete. DH said that wasn't acceptable and that at 11 years old he shouldn't be needing special ordered swim shorts or missing competition because he can't fit them.
I think it's a non issue anyway now that BM will be splitting nearly half the bill, there's no way she'll enroll SS11 in swimming it's ridic expensive.