DH's lawyer not overly optimistic
So our C&A assessment came back in DH's favor with the recommendation being that DH & BM keep joint custody and move to a 50/50 shared parenting arrangement on a week on, week off basis. It's exactly what DH has been going through the courts for the last 6 years to get.
The assessor did recommend SS10 go through a minimum of 4 counseling sessions prior to the transition. Here's where the problem occurs.
BM is overly dramatic. She infantilizes SS10 and doesn't believe he is emotionally capable of ANYTHING. Her side of the report basically said all she does as a parent is promote emotional intelligence and talk about feelings and etc.
DH believes that in order to cause the least stress on the transition for SS10 that we should have the counseling sessions completed prior to the new school year beginning. It's a reasonable schedule but DH's lawyer believesBM will almost certainly suggest it's too quick.
DH's lawyer has sent a 5 step proposal to BM which outlines basically completing the counseling so the transition can occur before the new school year. The school year parenting time arrangement is DH has SS10 every Wednesday evening and alternating weekends. The teacher's interview in the assessment said that SS10 was often quiet or sad at school on the days that he left our place and went back to her place. So the sooner he can get the counseling done before the school year, the better.
DH's lawyer won't schedule a pretrial until after BM responds regarding the proposal, but did say he would put a deadline on it so she can't use any delay tactics.
He sent the proposal out today, but realizing it's a Sunday we likely won't hear back for a few more days. If at all. I know BM's family is going camping so she may try to claim lack of service for not communicating. Either way, once the deadline passes DH's lawyer will schedule a pretrial.
Just need something to help me relax about it, as I know it's out of our hands at this point.