I am the mother of 2 biological children and stepmother to 5. DH and I have been together for 3 years, and married for almost a year. I am just starting to feel I am getting the whole BM situation under control (some days are better than others). With all due respect to my lovely husband and his 5 children - I reserve the right to retain control over my own life and I deserve respect from anyone who wants to spend time in my home (apart from my cats, they can and do walk all over me ).