I married a man with 3 children. His ex moved out of state with the three kid to get married. We see the kids according to their school schedual which is about 1 time a month. The oldest no longer wants to visit (18) we are not pushing it. The youngest was sent to live with us because he was so out of control with his mother and the third sees us at her liesure. Wish I new the impact of blended families before this all began!