I had plenty of chances to go with anyone, but I knew what I wanted and I was going to find it if it was the last thing I could do as I’m sure he did too. I grew up much differently than most; I’ve seen and done things that no child should have to endure. It all has done no harm, only made me the remarkable woman I am today. My mother had committed suicide about 6 months prior to my affair exactly 1 week past my 18 Birthday, and all she ever wanted was for me to leave the bastard of what he called himself a “man” and give my daughter what she deserved a real family and father figure.

I work really hard...

Just need to put that out there before my LONG rant...

I'm a first time mom to a great almost 2 year old boy...Been married for almost 3 1/2 years...Just celebrated 1 year in my new home...Lots of new stuff over the past few years...

I juggle a lot...Just like every mother on the planet...I don't think I'm doing anything special...

I'm a planner. I HATE...and will damn near FIGHT you if somebody throws some last minute unplanned, could have been avoided crap on me. I do it and adjust, but you will hear "it" from me...

Don't know if this has been posted before, but I found an excellent article here:

http://www.siskiyous.edu/class/engl12/stepmom.htm

I have printed it off, will be highlighting and leaving around the house by accident lol-I think i'll have more luck w/that then leaving a big book around.
The article hits the nail on the head about step-parenting, particularly stepmoms.

So SD (12) got head lice again. We have treated it three times now and she is still coming home from BM's with it. So we find out this weekend that even though BM knows perfectly well that SD has lice she is still allowing her to spend the night with people/have people spend the night with her.

I just can't seem to handle the two of them anymore. SS will be 7 soon and he really is the best manipulative kid I've been around. He lies constantly to me and DH then goes with BM and gets spoiled rotten. We don't tell BM about incidences because we want the least amount of contact with her as possible.

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Ok, so one thing about SD7 that has been bothering me is her seeming inability to respect people's personal space bubbles. This is always a problem, but was especially getting on my nerves this weekend. SO and I have told her repeatedly to get out of other people's faces, not to be climbing all over other people (us, guests), etc. We've tried nicely explaining to her why this is unacceptable, and when that has failed she's been yelled at and spanked (by SO - I try to remain punishment neutral). And yet. It's like nothing has gotten through to her.

I recently got married. My husband of 2months has a 6 year old son. He rarely comes over but his bio mother is always calling my husband for attention to his child. This situation is driving me crazy. I hate his son and i him too. I feel all alone. I feel i came btw the bio mother, the son and father. I really feel getting married to my husband has made my relation worse. Help as im losing my head.

With all the sadness we have and post about dealing with skids I wanted to post a little tiny ray of shine.

We had ssalmost 5 this weekend. Not our weekend but since he was to sick for us to care for last weekend we now have 2 in a row.

Anyway, this weekend was really good. He hugged me, invited ME and DH to his bday party, asks me to lay with him at bedtime, said thank you for everything we did for him, and didn't throw one fit when he didn't get soemthing he asked for!!! It was soooooo great.

I'm done. I feel bad for my kids, my husband. If I am with my husband, the dynamics of dealing with his children will kill the most precious thing, the innocense of my children. If I am not with him, we will both whither and die in the most important ways.
I'm lost. My husband is lost. We have realized that it is not workable to have princess and the pee in the same home as me and my sons.
My guts feel like a wide open scream, it hurts so much.