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Craziest thing BM has ever done contest!

Wed, 23 Jul 2008 08:52:31 -0700

Ok so on my first post "sarabernheart" left a comment about a "craziest thing BM has ever done contest"! It really made me laugh thinking about all the weird crap she has done so I decided to post it! Ill give you my story and you all give me yours! It should be good entertainment! Great idea "saraberheart"! LOL K here it goes:

the dog and the water bowl...saga part 2

Wed, 23 Jul 2008 06:48:22 -0700

monday i came home from work...no water. i didnt say anything to SS. after the last blowout, i figured, i will let it slide...i really dont want him to think of me as the wicked witch of st. louis.

little update

Wed, 23 Jul 2008 06:43:46 -0700

he met yesterday with the realtor, and is really putting the house for sale

he's leaving friday for another one of his 3 weeks trips, so i am going to be the person who has to show the house and deal with the realtor. how strange.

What a terrible night! (LONG RANT)

Wed, 23 Jul 2008 05:11:46 -0700

God, where do I even begin?! So, skids have been here since Saturday. BF and I had a "plan" to stick together and make them follow rules as well as do their chores. I still ended up with a sick feeling on the way to pick them up, or maybe it was just all of the text messages BF was getting from BM that was making me sick, not sure. Ok, so everything was fine, minor brother sister fights here and there (that I CAN deal with, no biggie). But yesterday, omg yesterday was really bad. FSS was a total handful, calling me idiot and throwing things when I'd ask him to do something simple, "can you put your things in your room please?".. "Shut up IDIOT!!" It continued like this all day. Eventually I was "spring cleaning" with FSD, FSS was right there freaking out about everything the 2 yr old was doing, it was driving me up the wall hearing "oh she's doing this" and "she's doing that" over and over constantly! Finally I said, "It's ok! You don't have to freak about every little thing, she's 2, leave her alone." He flipped out, called me names again and ran out the door. Like 10 mins later, he comes to the side door and taps on the window, wanting back in the house. (Part of me felt like keeping the damn door locked and let his little ass sit out there until BF got home) But I let him back in. I opened the door, looked at him as serious as I could and said, "can you tell me what I have EVER done to you to make you think you can treat me this way?" He just stood there, glaring at me. So I said, "well?" Then it was like Satan himself spoke up and said "I WILL kill you!" WTF?! This 12 yo just told me that he will kill me! The violence continued, he picked on his sister, hitting her and name calling. FINALLY, BF gets home. I filled him in and boy oh boy did FSS get his butt straightened out! Let's just say that Dad "took him out behind the barn" so to speak. After that he was sent to his room, told to stay there and do NOT come out. He stayed for about 45 mins or so. Then BF asked FSD & myself to come sit and talk, so we did. None of us could figure out anything to do to help with FSS behavior. So we have FSS come out to talk with us. He wouldn't speak, he sat there rolling his eyes and started calling BF an idiot. He eventually said that he didn't care who he hurts and that he doesn't want a family. He doesn't care about anything. So, BF asked how he expects to make it through life with no one,because with the way he's treating us, all he's doing is driving us ALL away. He still had no answer and said he didn't care, continued name calling and pissed off BF beyond belief. BF told him to pack his things, as he was planning to take him to BM house. I felt a sigh of relief knowing he was leaving, but at the same time, I kind of felt "guilty" for just tossing this aside and letting him "escape" to his mother's. For there I know he'd probably be praised for once again treating me like dirt. So, being the loving person I am, I went out side to talk to BF, told FSS to stay in the house. I basically told BF that we can't just continue to sweep this under the rug by taking him back to BM every time. I said we need to deal with this once and for all. I plan to be here a long time and at some point he needs to learn that he HAS to respect me. He can hate all he wants, but I want RESPECT from that kid. Took a few mins of telling BF that this will be tough, I'll hate it, he'll hate it, we'll be so stressed out from it, but we HAVE to try with this kid. We have to stick TOGETHER and try. Then I asked him, "what if FSS was OUR child? We couldn't just hand him off to someone like we do now. So let's try to fix it." He agreed. Soo, BF went to store, I took this time to take FSS into his bedroom and sit him down to talk. This was our first serious talk. I told him I loved him and wanted to have a great relationship with him, but his behavior and the way he treats me does nothing but push me away and mainly break my heart. I told him I didn't want him to have to go to a "home" for bad/sick kids, and my eyes got all watered up. Once he saw that it was like a light came on in his head. Then he said to me, "you just try to be my mom all the time." So, I told him, "I am not trying to be your mom, you only have one in this world and it's not me. I just want to be your friend." We talked a while longer, he said he was very sorry for how he acted and promised not to do it again. Then he hugged me. The rest of the night was OK, it was stressful, the entire house felt like every one was walking on egg shells.

Someone please tell me where is MY LIFE here? A long rant!!!

Wed, 23 Jul 2008 01:12:56 -0700

My skids drove me INSANE this past weekend. I took them to the beach along with my son, Gkids, and DIL. We drove in separate cars. Well I will tell you this I decieded after this trip and one taking them to a theme park that enough was enough for the summer. The more I do for them the more they want. After getting up Saturday morning early. Traveling 2 hours to get to my sons house, go to the grocery store to get some sandwich stuff we went to the beach. I rented out a hotel room that had a pool. So after the beach the gang decides to go to the pool. After that we went back to my sons house and spent the rest of the night running around town getting dinner together which was a nightmare in itself. It took an act of Congress to get a pizza from this one restaurant and after nearly an hour of waiting I got mad and canceled the order and ordered another pizza in another nearby place. I get the pizza home and SS15 opens up the box and pouts that the pizza is a cheese pizza. I was so angry, hungry, aggravated when I saw his face I yelled at SS that I didn't want to freaking hear it. If he didn't like the pizza I purchased then go hungry. I didn't give a rats ass. I went through hell to get that pizza and he was lucky to even get that one. He glady went on and ate the pizza. ARGHHHHHH! DH drank a few beers and when he does this talks way too much and gets very obnoxious. He gets on the subject of politics with my son and talks endlessly on and on. DH talked so much that he didn't hear me tell my son you are going to oh so wish you didn't get him started on this subject. I told my son he is going to wish he had a noose to hang himself. My son smile at me and said "oh no!!" My thought he only had one beer but he had a couple waiting on the pizza. Oh I wish I would have just poured gasoline on me and just lit myself. It would have been less painful.

Damn, DH can be such a flippin' idiot!

Tue, 22 Jul 2008 21:20:16 -0700

My best friend and DH are working for the same company right now. Although DH is not working right now because of his back surgery tomorrow, he went to a meetig this evening. It was one of those motivational ones to get you excited about the company..blah blah... He comes home telling me that my friend wants him to go with her to a conference in September to Denver. I flipped out!

Finally an explanation

Tue, 22 Jul 2008 19:01:10 -0700

Today was Sd's first appointment with the new therapist. Her previous one felt that the judges were not being fair and listening to her. Probably because the judge told DH that we were paying her off to say what we wanted. Yeah, we wanted to hear that SD's grandfather likes to watch her finger herslef. Sick F**K!! Anyway, she recommended another therapist and agreed to still stay in contact and help make decisions for SD's treatment. So we met with therapist number three....

Infuriated for DH (CS related)!!!

Tue, 22 Jul 2008 16:45:06 -0700

Is anyone familiar with CS in NJ? I'm trying to figure out if DH can be made to pay for BM's vacation (which was LAST summer) with their kids. At the request of their mediator, BM put together a list of her expenses. What she was supposed to do was put together a list of expenses she considers to be extraordinary, so that she and DH can negotiate the types of expenses he agrees should not be included in support.

HI everyone! kinda long sorry!

Tue, 22 Jul 2008 16:26:32 -0700

Hello to you all! I am new here! I have been looking at this site for a while now and finally got past the "security word" thing! LOL it took a while!
Just a little background on me. I have 2 girls. 6yrs (SD) and 20 months (BD). Have been married to DH for 2.5 years and together for 3.5.

I think it's me....

Tue, 22 Jul 2008 14:44:19 -0700

SD is back, and running up and down the stairs- boom boom boom boom boom!
Asking me all day

Can I go to the movies with my friend and her grandma?
Can I go to her house after the movies?
Can I go for a walk with her?

Need adivce, 6 yo SS pooping pants

Tue, 22 Jul 2008 14:09:22 -0700

BM has brought this up to BF twice now. The first time 2 weeks ago she told him that SS6 has been pooping his pants and hiding the poop around her house. BF told her that he had not been doing it at our house and she didn't believe him. Yesterday she called him and they actually had a civil conversation about a few things regarding the children. The poop thing came up again and she told him that she caught SS under the table at her boyfriends house and he had pooped his pants. BF told her again that he has not done it at our house and he searched the whole house for evidence but there was none.

another thing...his ex co-owns our house? yea thats what i said

Tue, 22 Jul 2008 13:00:15 -0700

So ...heres the other sogga...........

Divorce 2 yrs ago, and she gave him rights to remove her name from the Mortagage on the home , but left her name on the title until they seperate property.

Some of you might find this interesting

Tue, 22 Jul 2008 12:51:05 -0700

I put this link on my myspace blog as well. The link is to an article I read on CNN about a new service for cell phones with voice mail. In a nutshell; you can call the service, it will ask you for the cell phone number you want to reach, you put the number in and it bypasses the ring and goes straight to the person's voice mail.

Right of First Refusal ?

Tue, 22 Jul 2008 12:17:59 -0700

So my husband was granted everyother wkend vis. with his 4 kids, EVEN if he has to work... and with 4 its a juggle between the two of us and will be worse for me alone to handle.

And the Ex, wants the kids returned to her if he gets called to work.......fair right.

"It's for the KIIIIDDSSS..." WAAAAHHH!!

Tue, 22 Jul 2008 11:10:09 -0700

Pardon me while I vomit.

This seems to be the freaking MATING call of all divorced dads out there that can't seem to crawl out of their ex wife's ASSES long enough to realize that they are putting their CURRENT marriages in jeopardy.