Just a rant here. DH just signed the second CS check and sent it to BM, and I wanted to rip it up and throw it away. Damn it! We had SD15 for four years with NO CS, but BM filed for CS six months before she even took custody of SD (as soon as DH floated the possibility to her). I guess the lucky part is we'll only be paying CS for less than three years. But to think of all the time we DIDN'T get CS from BM and the amount that might equal (at least $12,000), I want to throw something.
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So sorry Elizabeth. It isnt
So sorry Elizabeth. It isnt fair, and you should have been given a credit. Have they hashed out the whole agreement yet?? Are they being reasonable w/the extra activity costs yet?
Did DH agree to stick to the budget this year for SD? I told my dh about this.. and he shook his head... he said he hopes your dh comes to his senses, and realizes that being homeless is not good w/two small girls.. just to give sd more.
He didn't respond to my e-mail
So I sent it again today. He responded but immediately tried to justify his decision from last year. He was in Chicago THIS October and brought back gifts for BDs. He actually tried to say that those gifts (about $30 each) should make up for the difference in the extra he spent on SD. Whatever!! I'm steaming and trying to come up with a "constructive" response.
With regard to CS, we get NO credit because of state law. They haven't reached an agreement and BM is ignoring DH's requests for mediation. What I suspect she has decided to do is to wait until the court hearing in January, get the MOST she can for CS, then stop sending SD down for visitation. I've told DH that, but it falls on deaf ears.
OK, I just sent him a not nice e-mail
Snicker, snicker. He's going to claim that a $30 dress equates to an extra $100 for SD (twice as much as BDs got) for Christmas. So I said:
"I don't think we need to get into a debate about bringing BDs 5 and 2 a gift from Chicago, considering that in past years you have taken SD15 with you TO Chicago and that costs a LOT more than those dresses, not to mention taking her to the Nike store and the American Girl store and...
Please just stick to the budget. If you're going to go over for SD15 and take the money out of your account, you should do the same for BDs 5 and 2. It's only fair. Can you afford an extra $100 per child from your account?"
He's going to be pissed! But I don't care, if it makes him see reason. Unfortunately, I doubt it will, unless he took his medicine this morning. We'll see...
What kind of meds?
Is he taking?? Just curious.
"OCD sucks"
Habit and routine have an unbelievable power to destroy.
--Henri de Lubac
Actually, I don't know what it's called
He suffers from depression and anger issues, so whatever his doctor put him on just keeps him even-keeled enough to "try" to discuss things rationally instead of flying off the deep end. Even DH will admit that he can tell the difference in his reactions when he hasn't taken the medication.
Well...look at it this way
Well...look at it this way regarding the child support...isn't it worth it not to have that kid living with you full-time?
I know you're right
It's just hard when we don't have the money as it is and we have to pay it to BM. I guess it's worth it to only see SD two days in every 14 instead of 10 in every 14. If we only had the money to spare, I might feel differently. But it'll come away from BDs and me.
Oh.. good luck.. Hopefully
Oh.. good luck.. Hopefully he comes to his senses.. and soon. Its just ridiculous. Perhaps point out that he needs to save all that money for the excessive VolleyBall (it is Volley Ball.. right? or was it soccer?) camps that he is going to have to pay for.. that bd's dont get.. nor is that kind of money spent on them.. and at this rate.. you wont be able to afford to let bd's do ANYTHING extracirricular.
Try that approach if he responds to you again.
Love that comment about him taking sd TO chicago.
Yes, it's volleyball
He knows I will ALWAYS find a way to make sure BDs get to do their activities. So I can't really threaten him with that. But you're right, I won't be able to spend NEAR the amount of money on them that BM does. Even now BD5 is asking me for soccer and karate and I'm have been politely "ignoring" her requests because of the money. Don't know how long I can keep doing that.
He has taken SD15 to Chicago at least twice in the past four years, so I can't believe he'd even try that argument with me!
Elizabeth - put me in a room
Elizabeth - put me in a room with this guy for 5 mins - I'll set him straight for ya!!
Inside every cynical person, there is a disappointed idealist. - George Carlin
Yeah, I would love to help!
Funny how they will listen to others but not to their wives. Serendipity, I'll then turn my DH over to you and I'll return the favor! That'll get their a$$e$!
"OCD sucks"
Habit and routine have an unbelievable power to destroy.
--Henri de Lubac
Harley - you got a deal
Harley - you got a deal hun!!
Inside every cynical person, there is a disappointed idealist. - George Carlin
I would love to stage an intervention
on some of these DH's including mine!
"OCD sucks"
Habit and routine have an unbelievable power to destroy.
--Henri de Lubac
I would SO love that
It would be worth a try. He's hard-headed, but it can't get any worse than it already is. Go for it!
I'll help too!!!!!
Intervention! Marvelous thought!
"To Thine Own Self Be True" William Shakesphere
We could lock all these over indulgent, infatuated fathers and their darlings up together in one very small house. Let them all have to share/work it out. No women there to do the crap chores, no women their to blame and insult when their darlings start pulling each others hair out! Can anyone guess the body count after, lets say a week?
I would like to take
one DH at a time and lock him up with all these ladies on ST. My husband's losing his hair on his own, but I can't imagine what he would look like once he emerged from a room with a bunch of women like me. Ha!
"OCD sucks"
Habit and routine have an unbelievable power to destroy.
--Henri de Lubac
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