My boyfriend and I have been talking about seeing the movie "Australia" and had planned to go see it tonight (Saturday), obviously this was before he did the math and knew it was one of his days to have his kids. Friday night he was at my house and started making excuses as to why we couldn't go Sat. night to see it. He didn't want to drive at night...too far to go...etc. I said, "Oh, plus you have the kids tomorrow night, right?" He said, "Well..what do you expect me to do?!" Of course, he can't do ANYTHING the 50% of the time he has his kids. His BABIES are 17 and 15 years of age. We did NOTHING last weekend because he had them (they weren't even around Saturday night and called him at 9:00 at night to inform him they were staying at their mom's house who lives at the end of his lane). So, now this weekend he has them Saturday and Sunday, and can't leave his house in case one of his babies decides to honor him with their presence. Well, he called me Saturday afternoon and now he was talking about going to see the movie tonight. I said, "Let me guess...your kids told you they weren't going to be home tonight, so now you're allowed to go to a movie with your girlfriend?" He said, "What, do you want me to be a NEGLECTFUL parent?" I told him his kids were 17 and 15. If they could not be home alone for 2 hours, he could always hire a babysitter. He sees his kids all the time because he has 50/50 custody, plus their mother lives in his front yard...literally....she lives in the house at the end of his driveway. I think he needs to start cutting the cord. WELL...he called me around 8:00 tonight. He's home along because his little babies have ditched him again and are out doing something.
I guess it could be
I guess it could be worse...I could be at his house while his 17 y.o. "princess" and 15 y.o. go to great lengths to ignore my very existence.
I can't believe you have to
I can't believe you have to deal with your boyfriend & the BM living next door to each other! YUCK!
"Nobody will ever win the battle of the sexes. There's too much fraternizing with the enemy"
I know...every time I pull
I know...every time I pull in and out of his lane, there SHE is hanging out on her deck or in her bikini in their new, inground pool.
Are you kidding me?
Gee whiz, the kids are almost grown. Is you BF planning to be at there beck and call when they go to college, move away, have kids, etc. I guess if I were you I would either move on or make plans with friends when he has the kids. No use both of you staying home doing nothing just in case he kids want to hang out with dad.
Yes, he and his kids think
Yes, he and his kids think he should sit home twiddling his thumbs in case one of his kids should happen to want something from him. If he only had his kids EOW, I could understand his point, BUT...he had them last Friday and Saturday night, and this Saturday and Sunday. He has them ALL the time. He's supposed to have them two days on, two days off, but since their mother lives in his front yard, they're always at his house, so he sees them every day.
Well, turns out he was home alone last night because his precious babies decided to go to their mother's relatives house for a belated holiday.
I am going to start making my own plans on days he has his children. If he wants to join me, fine, otherwise he can sit home alone waiting for his cell phone to ring.
You are
important too. To him, you are on his C list. I wouldn't put up with it. Let him finish raising those kids and you move on to someone who will cherish you and place you on their "A" list.
Mustang, too wierd
Geez, my BD WAS babysitting by age 15!! (I was babysitting when I was 12!)
I agree with Angel; as long as he knows you're sticking around
and allowing him to put you on C list, he's gonna keep doing
it.
"No one can make you feel inferior without your consent."-Eleanor Roosevelt
I know...it's so funny that
I know...it's so funny that no one ever hires his daughter to babysit...because SHE needs a babysitter herself! When I was her age, I was a veteran babysitter in high demand with regular, repeat customers! Apparently his daughter can't be held responsible for anything because "she comes from a broken home". That's his excuse for her immature, irresponsible behavior.
Mustang!
he is so co-dependent on those little babies that you may always be the third or fourth consideration. some men are willing to see that their lives need change and want to make the change
I do not think that BF sees anything wrong in how he parents, and it is like any addiction unless they see and admit it they will not change.
I know it is hard to find new friends in your area but you really should think about moving on from him.
hugs sweetie.
"Better a diamond with a flaw than a pebble without one."
Wow this takes the cake
You gotta look at the ex right next door all the time? I thought our situation was bad with the ex being just a couple miles away. But right next door, OMG!!
Your boyfriend is really missing out on life if he's staying home waiting on those brats to call him. That's pretty sad. If my DH did that I would give him a good swift kick in the butt, then make him leave!
"OCD sucks"
Habit and routine have an unbelievable power to destroy.
--Henri de Lubac
Mustang, since you're smart enough
"To Thine Own Self Be True" William Shakesphere
that this man is not your husband (you're wiser than I), isn't it time to find a bf who actually has time for you? This will not change. If you were to marry, it will only get worse, as we can all attest to.
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