MelanieMY's picture

I love my stepson so, so much

I lucked out in the step-child lottery. I love you, A***

Frustr8d1's picture

omg, never heard such a

omg, never heard such a comment in this forum. How did you come across this site and why did you join? lol, but seriously, what gives??

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MelanieMY's picture

I came across this site when

I came across this site when someone posted to a horrific post by "marriedaballlesswonder" or it might be "marriedtoaballlesswonder." The woman posted that she told her 15 yo step son that his mom should have swallowed his dad's load the night he was conceived.

I made an account to tell her how revolting that was and to ask if that was a troll account. The moderators deleted the post before I could respond to it.

edited:
Sorry, that first line got kind of jumbled. It should say "linked to a horrific post." A friend linked to the post via facebook.

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I love you, A***

oldone's picture

Skids are just people after

Skids are just people after all.

There are wonderful wonderful people out there. Also some miserable excuses for humanity.

Every adult out there was a child at some time. Some people (adults and children) are lovely - others - not.

StepAside's picture

I agree 100%. At the end of

I agree 100%. At the end of the day, people either convince themselves that others are deserving of their malicious behavior or they don't. That's what it really boils down to. We're all going to have positive and negative emotions. Everybody in this world is going to have disappointments.

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RedWingsFan's picture

So, someone who LOVES their

So, someone who LOVES their stepshit comes to a venting site where everyone bitches about theirs? Color me blonde, but I don't get it? Puzzled

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"Wine is to women like duct tape is to men - it fixes everything"

BSgoinon's picture

I adore my stepson...it's his

I adore my stepson...it's his mom that I have an issue with Eye-wink

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Disneyfan's picture

I love my SKs. I get along

I love my SKs. I get along great with one BM but hate the other.

MelanieMY's picture

I just explained in the post

I just explained in the post above yours Smiling

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Bojangles's picture

It's not a bad thing though.

It's not a bad thing though. Provides a bit of counterbalancing for all the doom and gloom. Everyone has to make their own journey through stepparenting and from the perspective of people in the early stages I think it's good to have SOME hope that good relationships can be formed. If you start out thinking it's going to fail it probably will, it might anyway, but at least if you tried to get the best out of your relationship with your stepchildren you know there's nothing more you could have done to make it work. You get a very distorted perspective on here if any positive posting gets jumped on. Plus there are people whose main issue is the BM, not their stepchildren.

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stepdown's picture

I think plenty of us like or

I think plenty of us like or love their stepkids. It doesn't make it much easier to be a stepparent and it doesn't mean we don't need help or don't need to vent. It is a generalization that this site is for stepkids haters, not true. It is for us to vent and get help.

For example I don't hate my adult SDs, I do need help in establishing boundaries as my YSD refuses to grow up and wants to be with us 24/7. It doesn't mean I hate her. True for most of us here.

Sure some people post that they hate SK so much that they are smacking, screaming and calling them names, but these people are in minority here. In any case it is much healthier to vent here than actually harass stepkids in real life. That's why it is venting site.

attempting_to_maintain_composure's picture

Agreed. I love my SD dearly

Agreed. I love my SD dearly even though I hate the way that she treats other people, particularly SO and myself. It's not her that I hate, rather, the way that she was raised to behave.

Frustr8d1's picture

Is this DFof3?

Is this DFof3?

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Disneyfan's picture

Maybe she's the one trying to

Maybe she's the one trying to get her SSs from the grandparents.

StickAFork's picture

^^^^^^

^^^^^^

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stepdown's picture

oh that one! i forgot about

oh that one! i forgot about her hahaha the one that loved them so much that couldn't wait to start spanking them lol

anabihibik's picture

I love my SS. I don't love

I love my SS. I don't love his mom.

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Frustr8d1's picture

Right, Disneyfan??!

Right, Disneyfan??!

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dtzyblnd's picture

I am going to assume this was

I am going to assume this was a sarcastic post since you said A****, I'm going to pretend that means ass or asshole. As in I LOVE MY SS, the A***! Tee Hee Hee.

Well, I care about my SS10. I cheer the kid on all the time. And I throw my hands up in
defeat and unrelenting pain when I see him self-destructing because his father acts like
an ostrich. Or a stubborn mule. Hell, lets just call a spade a spade, my DH is a ostrule,
and ostrich/mule! Eye-wink

Love? No. I love my puppy, who loves me. I love my other two sons who return my love. I like SS10 when he's being nice. I warm up to SS10 when he's in his warm up mode. I did the unrequited love with the kid already, NOT stepping in that shark pool again.

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My IPOD says sometimes you just wonder, how did that sperm win the race??
(that goes for all human beings, not just step hell)

MelanieMY's picture

LOL, nope, not sarcastic. I

LOL, nope, not sarcastic. I meant to type "A!***" like shows up in my signature line. In the late 80s/early 90s, we used "*" to represent a kiss.

I love my step son very, very much. He loves me, too. He is a vital part of my life that I would be devastated to lose.

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I love you, A***

BSgoinon's picture

I have to beg to differ...

I have to beg to differ... because I won that lottery.

My stepson is amazing. And I am not being sarcastic.

Sure, he gets an attitude from time to time, he pouts a bit when he doesn't get his way... but show me a 9 year old boy that doesn't do those things!

I have been on this site for 6+ years (different user names) and never once have I complained about my SS. I come here to vent about BM. SHE is a piece of work, that one!!

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"They were threatened by my intelligence and too stupid to know that is why they hated me."- Sheldon Lee Cooper

MelanieMY's picture

All kids give attitude and

All kids give attitude and pout from time to time. So do adults.

Frankly, I've met very few 13-17 year olds that were fun to spend much time around. All those hormones and drama! Pimples, BO, obsession with how others see them. Gah! I didn't care for teenagers when I was one!

I'm glad that you have a great step kid, too Smiling

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I love you, A***

StepAside's picture

Would be weird.

Would be weird.

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aggravated1's picture

I am confused. Does your

I am confused. Does your stepkid read this site? Why do we care if you love him???? Puzzled

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young_stepmomma25's picture

lol! oops! I really shouldn't

lol! oops! I really shouldn't laugh but oh.. what the hell? Sticking out tongue

SanAntonioSoccerMom's picture

Is it any different than

Is it any different than posting you hate your stepkid? I mean does anyone really care about anything that posted on here?

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SanAntonioSoccerMom's picture

I think I'd be more freaked

I think I'd be more freaked about someone saying that I should have swallowed my son, or they want to punch my son in the face, or referring to my son as a cum dropping or some other disgusting name I have read on this site. Nothing weird about that, huh? That's normal?

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