Step Talk

in upstate NY. Warm "indian summer" rain free weather. Leaves displaying their multi-coloured hues. SO much to be accomplished (we heat by woodstove exclusively; who can afford to pay heating bills when CS is so astronomical) We could be getting A LOT accomplished (splitting wood, putting away garden hoses, putting in storm windows, etc.)

(insert sound of two adults working in harmony, stacking wood with no interruptions for "juice" every 15 minutes and enjoying a few adult beverages coming to a SCREECHING HALT aka record needle screeches across the turntable for you oldsters)

I have an impending sense of doom that "Junior" (SS stb 6) will be over this weekend even though he was over last weekend. BF is practically IN LOVE with Junior as he views him as a "mini BF." It's his last futile attempt at salvaging the tail end of his PAS inflicted progeny. He has willingly let BM pound in the PAS by not enforcing his visitation, putting his head in the sand "BM wouldn't do THA-AT," not holding her in contempt and not "fighting fire with fire" over the last four long years. The oldest two are completely marinated in PAS and have little to nothing to do with BF anymore.

I have this to look forward to:

Junior racing in and repeatedly (about 12 times) swinging the small freezer door open and closed for no apparent reason

Junior racing through the house at high speed (BF sees nothing wrong with running in the house) carrying a football and pretending to be playing "real" football. After all, Junior is "all boy."

Junior asking me "where's dad" the millisecond that dad goes out of Junior's peripheral vision. I used the old "somewhere in this house" on him last weekend. The look of mystification was PRICELESS!

Junior automatically turning up his nose after asking "what's for dinner?"

Junior immediately getting bored if we aren't going to a movie, a mall, have a ps/2 game waiting for him, going to a petting zoo, going to a restaurant. Playing outside is INSTANT boredom for Junior. he will pretend to "help" daddy for about 15 minutes or so.

Junior poking/chasing the cats with his foot and making kicking motions toward them.

Junior using his football helmet as a "bucket" and dipping it in swamp water (we live on a wetland) then (and i am not making this up) dumping it on his head!!!!

Junior basically ignoring me and using absolutely NO manners with either daddy or me.

Junior ordering BF around like a Denny's waiter. All the while BF offering Junior a myriad of menu choices for each meal with Junior refusing each one of them. BF will continue to "bargain" with Junior the entire weekend via a lovely 2 day session of guilt parenting:

BF to Junior: "do you want to take a shower now?"
Junior to BF (covered in mud and flaking mud off all over the new laminate floors) "NO!"
BF to Junior: "Well we need showers to keep us clean!"
Junior rolls his eyes at BF and continues to refuse the shower.

BF carting Junior around to his football game. I used to go to these but standing around watching a bunch of 6 year olds (and SD stb 10 who is playing "class C" football) phone it in all the while getting hate stares from BM's community members is a complete waste of time as far as I'm concerned.