I know this is something I am trying to work on. I will be reprimanding SS for something, and DH will witness and say I am being too hard on SS 16. I realize I am doing it. And I try to not be that way, but it happens. I am trying to understand why I do it so I can move on. Something sets off in my mind that I just think it is okay to reprimand him to a different level than DH would. I have expectations for SS so to me it is justified...both his bio-parents have had their heads in the sand for the past 16 years when it came to actually parenting this kid-he is under socialized and just plain weird-and my DH see’s nothing wrong with this!
But this is related to a parenting of SKIDS that can upset the bio-parents.. Specifically your DH.
Does this happen to any of you?
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All the time. BF made the fatal mistake of letting BM run the show for the past 4 years and, as a result, BM and her mom have been completely successful in alientating the two oldest children (SS 12 and SD stb 10)from him.
All three children are over spoiled, over indulged "children of divorce" They never hear the word "no" and are all about 3 years behind developmentally. Only the youngest bothers to come over regularly anymore (SS stb6) and he has the manners and demeanor of a chimp on crack. He is very clever though and has wrapped BF around his little finger. A master manipulator! BF never punishes him b/c he never sees the glaring horrendous behaviour that would signal a normal non-guilt-parenting bio parent to put a halt to it immediately. When SS is out of earshot of dad, I let him know that CRAYON does not put up with any foolish behaviour and that although dad is blind to the crap you pull, CRAYON can see through your little games!
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