I really am not looking for advice in this blog just wanting to whine, bitch, and moan about my fiance's ex BM to his daughters.
Alright to give everyone a little background on this woman she is constantly moving in and out boyfriends and girlfriends (she can't decide whether she is straight or gay, whatever floats her boat, but kids are involved she needs to make up her mind) in and out of the kids lives. She has even told her daughters (12 and 13) that they were moving in with this one guy so he could pay her bills. Way to teach your kids how to be a whore. 
She has a myspace page where she has personal pictures of her out at the club layed out on pool tables with women simulating oral sex on her and her kids have seen these pics. She talks to her kids about her sex life finds it funny when they find her sex toys. I could go on, but it is making me sick!!!!
This brings me to my bitchfest. This past week she calls my FH her ex becasue she is at her wits end with the girls. Why is she at her wits end. Why it is because they have both started acting out sexually. 12 & 13 people 12 & 13. The 12yo has been writing sexually explicit IM's to a boy in her school and the 13yo has actually been performing acts or should I say letting them be performed on her. Now maybe if these kids had some form of supervision this wouldn't have happened. Oh yeah the 13 yo is flunking out and is forging parents signatures on school stuff.
You want to know what pisses me off the most is she called my man their Daddy to help with punishment. Now mind you any other day of the week the girls are none of his business and he needs to butt out unless it is to give her extra money besides child support. Well to make a long story short he is the one who had to chew the girls out come up with ideas for punishment and guess what folks the kids of course hate him and that is okay because rather be a parent than do nothing at all right. Well it has only been a week and the kids aren't even punished ANYMORE they are off restriction. Now in the kids eyes she is the good guy and the cool Mom and her poor kids are on their way to being the skanks of the county and she doesn't even care.
I mean seriously peopl why even call and have the kids Dad do anything if you are not going to follow through with the punishment I swear she di it to drive a wedge further between the girls and their father. She is the sorriest piece of shit I have ever encountered in my life.
This story is sickening -
This story is sickening - has your fiancee considered suing for full custody to get the girls out of that environment? You are right - she is teaching those girls to grow up and milk men for everything they are worth...in other words they are being groomed to become future BM'S....LOL
Inside every cynical person, there is a disappointed idealist. - George Carlin
We have thought about it,
We have thought about it, but we do not have the funds to fight in court. I am in school right now and fiance works his butt of to pay our bills and child support. While BM on the other hand will have her mommy and daddy fund the fight in court. As we speak she is laid up in her Mommy's house with her girlfiend not paying one dime towards bills nor working it makes me want to puke. We have even called DFACS and were told unless we had proof on tape their is nothing they can do. This country really needs to rethink the whole idea that children are better off with the mother.
Stories like this make me sick!!!
Rather than court have you guys actually spoken about having the girls full time to BM? The only reason why I asked this is because I have 3 SS and it was decided between BM and BF that one of the SS comes and lives with us (or maybe I should say that BM actually threw her eldest son (13) out of the house.)
If you havn't spoken to BM, it may be worth a try and then you guys wouldn't have to go to court cause it would already be agreed to by both parties.
I just don't understand how these BMs can actually be like this and call themselves a mother, where is their self respect, their dignity and their pride. Now I'm getting upset for you Arrrhhhh.
We have discussed with her
We have discussed with her about having the girls full time. She will not receive child support if she doesn't have them. Also she knows their Daddy would want nothing more than to raise them. Her goal in life is to make him miserable so she says no. We even told her we wouldn't want child support for the kids. She sleeps most of the day on the weekends she sends the kids off to their friends houses for the weekend. Even on Dad's weekends she encourages the girls to find a friend to stay with so visitation will turn into a fight. Look your Daddy doesn't care what you want he wants to make you go to his house he doesn't care about you having fun. It is so sad because I know she must be truly miserable to make children hate their father so they only love her to boost her non-exsistant self esteem. It is so sad for the kids because they don't know what true parental love is.
that is a disgrace
We have a similar bm but have had some luck with my sd 17 since she got a little older, around 15 or so, but actually now she is running wild too. I would be sure to tell your sd's the facts of life pronto!
I am sorry I don't know, but how often do you see these girls, do you have any influence on them at all? my SD seems to like me better than her dad sometimes, I think just because her mom teaches her to hate men, so sometimes she listens to me more although she pretends not to, since I am 'not her mom'.
"A lie told often enough becomes the truth." - Vladimir Lenin
I completely empathize with
I completely empathize with you. The BM of my two SK, one SD and a SS, has moved... oh let'see, this recent one makes 22 in the last 7 years. And each one worse than the next. Since we have made a drop off zone instead of our houses (frankly, she is not allowed to be on my property since she threatened to kill me then herself) we don't get to see her prize places. However, if it is on GoogleMaps you can get street view of the roach motels.
My SS has had a bed wetting problem since his mom dropped them off at our doorstep b/c she couldn't handle kids at the time... sad, she could closley resemble the woman in Florida who possibly killed her little 3-yo! Anyway, she puts him in diapers and lets him sleep on the floor while he floods his PJ's and says nothing about it! Meanwhile, we have spent over $5K for urologists, therapists, medicine, etc... you name it we have tried it and he is now 14 years old, 6' 3" and still wets the bed.
2 years ago they came back from her house for the summer, against our better judgement, but we gave them the decision to do normal visitations or to go for the whole summer - of course they choose the whole summer. (We did this b/c my SS was flunking out of 7th grade, and my SD was out of control she was only 8 years old) When they returned, my SS had a bad smoking habit, and since we did not support the habit he was going through withdrawel - stole a pack from the neighbors car and was smoking them in the field behind our house!
Anyway, long story short, we kept them from the BM, and it took her over a year to take us to court and never asked but two times if she could have them back. She is the poster child for the reasons there should be tests given before you can get pregnant.
When we went back to court finally - yes, her mommy and daddy who are no better (out of the three of them, none have a drivers license) and the magistrate didn't want to hear the 7 years of phone calls we had recorded, the pictures of when she didn;t take my SD to the hospital/doctor after she wrecked a mini crochrocket going 30+ mph, or any of the other thingsd we had as material things against her, all SHE wanted to know was when were we going to start up the visitation again? Whatever, and send them to the dark side, the hell holes, the den of Satan??
As far as I am concerned, the system does not work for fathers who have custody. Of course, the meaning behind "dead-beat fathers" has gone by the way side, and the term "Dead-beat moms'" has taken over.
I do feel for you and yes, I have been dealing with this since they were 3 and 6 years old. I now have my own with thier father and she is 5 now. It is very hard to not just want to send them back to thier mothers house so I can raise one without the influence of the other two, or dovorce my husband and of course that would lead to the same battles.
Hopefully things get better, I am waiting on the day, but until then, I hold on and grit my teeth to smile.
I know the feeling.....
Your ex reminds me a lot of mine. This woman showed her kids sexually explicit pictures when the youngest was 6 and the oldest was 9, and she had a nude picture on the cover of her myspace page. Well now sd14 is of course is having sex, and instead of anybody advising against it, the BM goes and puts her on birth control and tries to hide it from DH. And DH will not confront her, which drives me insane. I just don't get how you can be a mother and behave like this, at some point in your life you have to grow up.
I didn't get time to read
your hole story, but I LOVE the pisson the ex logo..
where did you find that????
my hubby thought it was funny too. thanks for the laugh.
as far as she goes,they are all BITCHES,
I either got it off
I either got it off photobucket or myspace.
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