I just picked my ss up from the bus stop. He told me that I was going to be happy about something that was going on at Bm's house. He told me that they found mold in Bm's basement. I told him that that doesn't make me happy it makes me RIGHT! That's kind of what he meant. He just didn't know how to put it.
I've been saying that ss smells like Bm's whole house is moldy when he comes back from her house. Bm has been saying "oh no, there's NO MOLD in my house".
Ss said that men were going in and out of his mom's house trying to get rid of the mold. Ss also said that Bm told him that if he starts feeling like he's getting a headache or the sniffles, that he'll have to go to our house and stay since he's allergic to mold. I asked ss if his mom was going to call his dad and he said no.
Personally, I think that this is a serious health issue and Bm should be talking to Dh and telling him what is going on. Certain kinds of mold can cause major problems for people even if they aren't allergic to it.
I'm getting ready to call Dh and tell him what ss told me and see what he says.
Dawn
Dawn
I would not leave this to chance. My daughter is allergic to mold and it triggers severe asthma attacks. She is asthmatic and has other allergies, but nothing can do a number on her quite like the mold. You know that mold in and by itself can lead to respiratory problems in a healthy person. Do not for the sake of SS sit on this one. Make her provide proof that the problem has been eliminated before he is allowed to visit at her home again, especially overnight. Yeah, I know it can be a headache, but his health is more important than anything else. She needs to be able to provide a safe and healthy environment for him to be in. Good luck with it.
Step Mother's Motto this week is:
You don't have to LOVE me, you don't even have to LIKE me... But you will RESPECT me.
Dh called Bm
Of course she didn't answer her home phone or her cell phone. I told him to not bother leaving a message because once she knew it was him, she wouldn't return his call. Then she called back around 9pm thinking that ss had called her. Bm told Dh a bunch of stuff that ss wasn't aware of.
First of all, Bm said that yes the house has mold and that she told ss to not go in the basement or the kitchen. Dh told her that mold spreads through the air and you can't just stay out of certain rooms. I think she knows this but is playing ignorant. Anyway, she said that she was planning on moving. So we don't know where she is planning on moving to and if it will affect her ability to get ss to school on her days. If she moves out of the district, there will be no school bus service.
We also found out that she is about to come into a large sum of money. She didn't say how much but I'm assuming she's planning on using it to move so it's probably quite large. The money is coming from a wrongful death lawsuit that she has had pending from 7 years ago when her husband of 2 months, died. She sued the doctors, the hospital and a drug company. From what I heard from Dh and from what ss told me, it sounds like she is going to ditch the moldy house and the live-in ex.
Finally, she told us that her mom is visiting from out of state and that Bm may have to drive her mom back home this weekend. Ss is supposed to be at her house. She can't take him with her because of the fact that he has a parade to march in on Sat. and a soccer game on Sun. and then or course school on Mon. So she wants ss to be able to stay here if she decided she has to drive her mom. That's find but when we will find out for sure is anyone's guess. Bm also said that her mom's husband is sickly and she may have to stay at her mom's house for an extended period of time to help out.
Wow! That is a lot of heavy stuff and big changes for ss.
Dawn
Your BM sounds just as informative as our BM!!
(sarcasm off). Our BM has kept silent about things that could possibly effect health of skids, this past weekend she sent SD to our house with untreated ringworm. I believe she knew full well about this and just didn't want to tell BF for fear of being viewed a "bad mother." (which she is of course)
She has not given us a copy of her health insurance card even though we have skids for visitation (or at least one skid)
When BF carried the health insurance, we gave her a copy of the insurance card immediately. She has not returned the favour since last November!
She has also kept quiet about emergency room visits (possibly due to the fact that she leaves skids alone a lot and they get into "trouble" meaning emergency room trouble while they are unsupervised)
We always hear info "2nd hand" and I think to this date, she still thinks that we don't know she re-married a few weekends back
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