She hadn't been over since July 4th weekend when I supposedly "intimidated" her according to BF.
Well as soon as they arrived I spent a little time freezing and drying some produce, started bread making, then went off and did errands, got my nails done, etc.
BF had SS stb 6 and SD stb 10 all to himself. Then he took them to SD's football game.
They showed up around 5:30 pm just as I had finished cooking dinner. So all told I had 6 skid-free hours.
They actually ate the dinner I made (well almost all of it) and didn't complain!!! BF put them to bed at a reasonable time which was great as they are sleep deprived at BM's house.
SD had RINGWORM and BM didn't say anything about it. Being a mother with experience, I immediately recognized it. It seemed BM's new hubby also identified it as ring worm. BF was doubtful (he is always trying to discredit my parenting experience), but when he dropped off skids on Sunday AND called skids later that day, BM admitted that she was taking SD to the doctors b/c of it. WAY TO GO BM (she has NEVER offered ANY information even though she is supposed to)
Now we have to work on breaking SS of asking for stuff in stores or when approaching stores.
Another thing was while dinner was on, SD actually made conversation with me that wasn't sarcastic! I did notice however that she constantly blinks which the oldest SS stb 12 does all the time. Sounds kind of like OCD is happening. I'm not surprised b/c BM has so warped these children from normal childhood life it's pathetic.
SS stb 12 was a no-show again. He had a school dance to go to (where he remains a completely unpopular kid despite desperate attempts by the BM to get all 3 skids to be popular)
Wow Crayon, sounds like you
Wow Crayon, sounds like you got to enjoy part of your weekend. Sorry to hear that sd is developing a facial tick. Its hard not to notice that. And YUK about the ringworm. OMG, I can not even imagine that your bf didnt believe you. Bet that shut him up when it was confirmed.
yes i don't know why he is so resistant
to my parenting experience. After all I raised two children w/o CS successfully and they are productive adults now. I think he is really jealous b/c he knows that with all the CS money he flushes, he is not going to get a "quality product" with the BM; the skids are definitely messed up now and are going to get even worse.
He often displays anger with me as to why I didn't get CS (misery loves company) and accuses me of not fighting hard enough for it. Truth be known I did as much as possible trying to get CS, but the laws were just not as strict as they are now. I read on glennsacks.com that the laws really tightened up in the 1990s and CS collection has quadrupled since the 90s. Well My biokids were born in the eighties, so he just can't get it into his thick skull that there was no threat of jail, license removal as there is now!!!!
By total contrast, I raised two "normal" children to adulthood independent of CS. He's probably constantly scratching his head on that one!
UPDATE: Ringworm confirmed
UPDATE: Ringworm confirmed! BF has been OWNED!
The Upside of Ridiculous
I can really relate to this! I am new here-so a brief history. I am BioMom to two young men (all grown up)-My eldest son has ADHD(what a prize-he's feeling much better now) and youngest son has ADD-they were raised by me and their BioDad -a cop-we split when the boys were finishing high school. Let me tell you it was no picnic to be with two young men (16-18 at the time) and a BD that wiped his hands of them as "they were all grown up"-Fast forward to now-the boys survived in spite of my rules, boundaries and limitations-they weren't perfect, I am not perfect-but they left and are living happily ever after(sort of, see below for update). The young men left and I was alone for 5 minutes in the living room (with a glass of wine) when I met the sweetest man on the planet (not in the living room-that is another story).
My new guy was in a week on week off parenting situation with a then 13 year old son. We started dating-(preview the pink clouds and butterflies begining). We were skipping along when BM had a meltdown due to some mental health issues (with her then live in)-Fast Forward-Mr. Wonderful moves in with me- HIS EX has MENTAL meltdown ends up in Looneyville for a spell(there before the grace of God go I-knowing her kid now)-week on week off (which I loved!!) is now over( see me crying in my wine) -Child Services moves in, removes Junior from the situation of week on week off-dumps him on our door step-what is a Bio parent supposed to do? SURPRISE!!
Now I get to see the real parenting that went on with Junior, which was exactly NONE!!! (but wait it gets better!)
As if that is not enough-my 23 year old young man decides to do "more school"-BOOMARANG KID!!-sooooo Mr. Wonderful and I decide-lets do this with these young men (I need more wine)....
We proceed to sell the LOVENEST-and buy a house in the burbs-we move in and I find I am living with a now 14 year old who has been raised by the "MUNSTERS"-talk about WEIRD-but I digress.....
Here is what I have to compare to-My bio young man is, inspite of his learning disabilities a "well rounded young man"-plays sports, goes to work-pays rent-know manners and boundaries--Mr. Wonderful is amazed that a young man with ADD can be so 'normal" and positive, get this, with a Life and FRIENDS.
THEN we have JUNIOR (aka Mr. Sunshine)-NOW 16 years old-he is 6 feet tall, dark, full of acne and will not shower-and acts like Eeyore-the glass is always half empty-lazy, no initiative with the personality of a wet rag. Mr. Sunshine moves at the speed of a sloth and is certainly NOT burdened with the ravages of common sense. He is an introverted entirely spoiled only child, sitting on a pity pot (Dad falls for it everytime!!)plays dumb-hardly goes out with teens his own age (I tried-Lord I tried)Hopelessly WIERD-up until last year he still sucked his thumb and had a pillow in public!!! I was mortified!! "We just cannot get Junior to stop said his Bio parents"!! Are you kidding me!
I had him try counselling, no help there (apparently thumb sucking is akin to smoking-releases endorphines blah blah blah) poor kid we should wipe his butt re his losses yada yada yada-am I the only one thinking "what crap"?
So evil me-addressed the problem-politely in public-Junior, I think you are too old for thumb sucking and a pillow- from this moment on it is no longer OKAY-
"My WE could NEVER GET Sunshine to stop, how did you do that?"!!!!
I love my now husband (don't ask)-but he looks on Junior as if he is the last coming of perfection on earth-"Son-would you like to take a shower, now?-Oh Endora "Sunshine knows what I mean" (see me looking how?? "incredulous")!!!
Mr. Wonderful still makes Junior's lunch and was offended by me -Junior looks like ZZ top now-giving him a razor was no help-Mr. Wonderful, I said-I think you may want to shave your son-(he took this as hurtful?????)--Crayon look what you have to look forward to!!
Part Deux---The UPSIDE of introversion:
WELL All i can say is
it still falls down to PARENTING! which there is an eXtReMe lack of these days!!! Either that or the dreaded guilt parenting which is total spoiling! What the hell is with this generation of so called "parents?" Oh, wait, I know! It was all that fru fru self esteem nonsense that they were raised with. Symbolism over substance! Give Johnny an A because he's special! Don't fail anyone for bad grades, bad behaviour, gosh no, we can't do that, it would hurt little Johnny's psyche!!
RUBBISH!
We need to get back to good old fashioned pre 1970's parenting!!!!!!
Parenting
Parenting is hard work (and very rewarding)-I shudder to think of the future for some of these young people. I just shake my head at what I am seeing with my stepson-but having come on the scene too late, I can be a friend and advisor-it is hard to let some of this roll off however....thank goodness his marks are good, and the upside is he never gets in trouble as he NEVER goes out!
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