BF was acting like a love drunk sailor just b/c skids decided to call him (after a hiatus of about 2 1/2 weeks) to tell him how school was going, but mainly SD stb 10 called to complain how ROUGH football is (BM stupidly enrolled her in boy's football) DUH!!
I think SD who has been taught to dislike me (hate is more like it) by the BM overheard me say "football is NOT for girls" in the background. SD considers herself a "tomboy." She vascilates between tomboy and crying at the drop of a hat princess every 30 minutes or so. Side note: when SD "decides" to come over (she hasn't since July 4th weekend) she wants to call the BM CONSTANTLY!
I thought BF was going to do handsprings across the roof just b/c skids called; who are they fooling? oh that's right; they are fooling daddy, that's for sure. He bought it hook, line and sinker. He snapped out of the "mood" he's been in for the past week and a half after I told him the skids are wild and spoiled.
These skids have been taught over 4 years to despise their dad and me; but instantly he acts like a love starved fool b/c of ONE eXtReMeLy rare phone call!!! I just can't get over how he can be so naive!!
It is true: hope springs eternal.
i really think he needs counseling
please dont take offense, but it almost seems like he has an unhealthy relationship w these kids, or at least needs to get over the guilt parenting.
"Given the right reasons and the right two people, marriage is a wonderful way of experiencing your life."
~the late great George Carlin
No kidding
He's suggested counseling for ME b/c I have the problem; according to him I hate his kids b/c I think kids should have rules! Everytime I mention this he says "well your kids didn't turn out that great!" (meaning they are not NASA rocket scientists or the prez of the US)
these skids are going to get into some major league trouble as they are sailing fast in that direction. I can just FEEL it.
Of course BF will blame it on me and not his guilt parenting or the BM's complete lack of parenting.
Crayon, Perhaps you should
Crayon,
Perhaps you should say.. wow.. if you dont think that MY kids turned out great, you are in for a HUGE disappointment w/your kids.
Good lord. I agree, he needs the help, NOT you.
wow that's just sad, I don't
wow that's just sad, I don't even know what else to say!
from my SD, the reason we're going through it all....:
o, btw, my dad and *northernsiren* are the best family a girl(and boy) could ever hope for. Thank you for helpping me through these hard times.
I have a question?
Why isnt he enforcing the visitation? If he doesn't, he is only going to feed to PAS.
i can answer that for crayon
they dont do a formal visitation schedule...its basically whenever BM needs a sitter. they usually end up w the kids every weekend until school started. such is crayon's plight...*sigh* her Bf doesnt wanna make waves w a strict schedule.
"Given the right reasons and the right two people, marriage is a wonderful way of experiencing your life."
~the late great George Carlin
well put bella
basically, he lets BM do whatever she wants, then complains and gets angry when she takes advantage of him. And expects sympathy from me. The old chestnut of "I'm not going to drag my kids thru court" comes out. I told him that the skids NEVER go to court just the BM and he still won't hear of it. Methinks he has a softspot for the BM and secretly likes the abuse. Or as another poster brought out "DH loves the attention of two women; even negative attention"
I have talked to him till blue in the face that he is actually causing the skids MORE harm by NOT enforcing visitation and NOT parenting "as if" he were still together with the BM. He will NEVER EVER get this! It's because CRAYON is saying this that he will never believe it.
i know...im wise!
honestly, i dont think i would be w my FH if he did this. as much as i love him, i just feel doing this doesnt show much love or respect for me or our relationship. and i would always wonder his motives behind pleasing BM....
"Given the right reasons and the right two people, marriage is a wonderful way of experiencing your life."
~the late great George Carlin
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