What is-
Two weeks?
Or
What is-
8 days spent with SD since school let out and started again?
Or
What is-
As long as it takes Sita Tara to pose the question in the first place?
Take your pick.
We now have a supremely indignant, overly hostile, angry B--ch on our hands...
Oh yeah, and BM is a treat too. Hasn't even told DH she isn't taking her ever again yet.
And SD told me tonight that our taking away her make-up, straightener (including the other one she sneaked in from BMs or a friend's yesterday) and her hair gel is because we want her to look ugly so no one will want to be her friends.
Sound a little paranoid you think?
This was actually in reference to the gel.
I said, "Ummm....your friends won't like you if you don't use hair gel?"
I mean it's not like we took away her deodorant or chance to shower daily.
Or twice daily....or three times daily like she compulsively tries to do.
She responded with, "Nope they won't. They are HONEST and tell me when I look like crap and NO ONE wants to hang around someone who looks like crap."
I said, "Well...then they are CRAPPY friends. No good friend would ever not like someone because of the clothes they wore or not using hair gel or makeup."
SD, storming off- "You just don't get it!"
Me, to no one save the new puppy in the room, "Well now. THAT's true. I don't get it. At ALL."
*Sigh*
Had a big discussion with my sons about SD's behavior. We were all honest about our feelings for the first time and it was a turning point for the boys. BS 14 is totally being supportive and helpful now that everything is out in the open. BS 11 expressed his fear of SD physically hurting him after witnessing her explosive fighting and baiting of DH this week. I assured him I will not leave him alone with SD ever again and he was relieved.
When the kids left for school this morning both my sons came up for several hugs goodbye and BOTH said "I love you." BS 11 is always affectionate, BS 14 had stopped completely but is finally back. We are the three muskateers again (plus BD 2). We had a great time with each other when DH was out of town T/W and SD was what is apparently her LAST BM visit. Until that changes again of course.
We are having cable issues and they can't come til Tue afternoon. Miraculously it came back on tonight,but I don't know how long that will last.
On a happy note, no internet made me feel like calling my stepfriends CG, K, and SW tonight. K wasn't available, but I did talk to SW and CG. We are getting mighty excited for our trip.
So much more to vent but alas, must get my little snuggle bunny (that's BD 2- I would NOT refer to DH that way, as he is far too "manly" for such a title.)
She's up late due to DH not getting home from work til 8. BOY...there's a torrid tale of having to be here alone with SD in itself. As I told SW on the phone tonight when she asked how I was...
"Well, things are crashing in the room above my head."
That's all for now.
hostile
"We now have a supremely indignant, overly hostile, angry B--ch on our hands..." I am so sorry. Unfortunately as a former director of a daycare center I have seen this type of behavior time and time again. When a child feels unloved and unworthy by their parents it appears they feel compelled to make the dream come true. They give the parents every reason on earth not to love them. The rejection gives them unbearable pain and usually they start looking for love in all the wrong places and all the wrong faces.
Sita, my friend...
Nice chatting with ya! Hang in there, just a few more weeks till - relief !!
Stepwitch
Thank you Disney for portraying a positive image on all stepmothers!!!!
Wow my SD says stuff like that too.
At the kids school that have what is called the "unified uniform" dress code. Everyone must wear collared shirts (polos) or a school shirt (school name and logo, sold by PTA). Students can wear jeans (blue only) and grey, black or khaki pants.SD wanted us to purchase a $70 pair of shoes to which we replied no because she of course has severlal pairs of shoes. Her response. "You guys just want me to get picked on because I don't have the latest fashions and wear the same thing." It's not like you have many options and by golly gee whiz EvERyONE's wearing the same thing. On top of that a new pair of shoes isn't going to change the uniform look. Whateva. I feel your pain GF.
Step Mother's Motto this week is:
You don't have to LOVE me, you don't even have to LIKE me... But you will RESPECT me.
You knew it was only a matter of time...
Like I told you....
Maybe now you can save her.
"For every ailment under the sun....There is a remedy, or there is none;
If there be one, try to find it; If there be none, never mind it." ~ W.W. Bartley
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