It all started when BM called SD to let her know she wasn't feeling well and was therefore not taking her tonight.
Then, in light of my neighbor informing me of the plan to TP my house that I interrupted the other night, AND the fact that same neighbor has now grounded her daughter for sneaking out to meet a boy, then bringing same boy into her bedroom through her window, THEN SD making sure I knew all about the daughter giving said boy oral sex AND how fun it must be to sneak out (yes she really said that to me)...
I thought to my Sita self
Tonight...
Is the night...
SD will be pulling something.
So I followed that damn mother hen intuition and settled down on the couch in such a way that I was camouflaged by pillows and a blanket, so SD would walk right past me in the dark, and I waited. I dozed. I was just about to give up and consider myself paranoid and kinda was irritated with myself to be up playing spy vs spy rather than sleeping when...
Her alarm went off.
Her door opened.
I hid under the blanket as I heard her tip toe downstairs.
I saw a light go on but couldn't tell what she was doing.
Was she simply raiding the freezer again for ice cream?
Then I heard the slightest creek of a door.
I waited a few more minutes.
Then got up quietly, and went to look at the garage. The light was on out there. The side door to the outside was left open (nice to know we're vulnerable- NOW we have a reason to tell her why she doesn't get a flippin' key.)
I went to her room to see the stereotypical blanket stuffed bed (when will these kids realize we aren't as stupid as the parents on Hannah Montana or Jake and Josh??? )
Oh yeah! Tonight they will.
Because they aren't dealing with Billy Rae or whoever Jake and Josh's tv parents are.
They are dealing with ROSANNE flippin' BARR!
NINJA MOM RULES!
Thanks for listening.
Oh- and by the way. SD is always racing to beat me to the mail. BM always did this with DH in order to take out things for him like b-day cards from his parents, etc, or bills from her home shopping network addiction. Don't know why SD is mail obsessed but it must be genetic.
BUT....
When SD goes to get it next time?
The boarding school fliers/applications I ordered will be greeting her. Someone on here recommended that one a while ago. Of course we can't afford them (more than flippin' college for cryin' out loud!) but...
SD doesn't know that!
Goodnight and Goodluck!
sad
Its such a shame that she is going to self destruct and she is only a child.
Very sad
Indeed.
I just remembered too that she put up a couple of pics of DH and BM on her wall this week too. Wallets this time (I took away the 8 x 10s after SD started being a total bit@h to me.) DH will be removing them from her wall today. You don't get to shatter every gift I gave you, and rip my image out of every picture, then have a BM shrine for a woman who can't be bothered to take her visitation.
"Om Tare Tutare Ture Mama Ayurpunye Jnana Putin Kuru Svaha"
~Sita Tara Mantra
so what happened when she
so what happened when she got home? I am dying to hear this one, but understanding full well if we don't hear from you until 11:00 am or so, 3:00, good lord!
out til 4am
Neighbor was TP'd but SD claims to have nothing to do that, won't tell us who she was with, is insisting that she set her alarm because she wanted to "go for a walk". Just felt like it, because it's a normal thing for a 13 year old to do at 2 am.
So...
More installments to follow below.
"Om Tare Tutare Ture Mama Ayurpunye Jnana Putin Kuru Svaha"
~Sita Tara Mantra
Oh Sita - I am so very sorry
Oh Sita - I am so very sorry for you. I have no words for this situation. You are such a remarkable person for taking all of this on - I don't know if I could live with the destructive behavior this child exhibits on a regular basis - you are my hero!! What ended up happening? Did you catch her and her friends in the act?
Inside every cynical person, there is a disappointed idealist. - George Carlin
we waited up for her
That's all. She's grounded til Nov right now, DH said til Dec if she refuses to give up her cohorts.
I'm no hero Serendipity...I am just hanging on right now
"Om Tare Tutare Ture Mama Ayurpunye Jnana Putin Kuru Svaha"
~Sita Tara Mantra
sita dont leave us hangin!
what happened????
spill it
"Given the right reasons and the right two people, marriage is a wonderful way of experiencing your life."
~the late great George Carlin
OMG. I would have followed
OMG. I would have followed her and caught her and her bad friends in the act of whatever they were doing.
BUSTED is what I would have said!!
I hope you ground her for a month w/no access to those friends... and no fun.. and lots of chores.
I couldn't have followed her
I had to stay hidden until she was all the way out of the house, then went to make sure that she had left by checking her room, THEN had to wake up DH.
We are getting a security system this week. AND SD will be doing community service to contribute to her portion toward purchasing it.
"Om Tare Tutare Ture Mama Ayurpunye Jnana Putin Kuru Svaha"
~Sita Tara Mantra
I would have been scared
to let her go. I'd be thinking of serial killers and machete-wielding psychopaths the whole time she was gone, and I STILL wouldn't have been able to sleep.
I remain, the world's most evil stepmom; ask anyone.
Sita....
Come on, you gotta tell us what happened!!
Dawn
I too, would have followed
her butt outside and went to see what she was doing.....don't leave us hangin!
Oh - I hope everything is ok
Oh - I hope everything is ok - I am on the edge of my seat waiting to hear what happened...
Inside every cynical person, there is a disappointed idealist. - George Carlin
She did kind of post an update on another person's
blog...something about raising bkids around skids.....
You will have to wait- we're heading out for DH's class reunion
Sorry to all to keep ya hangin'. I did post somewhere in the early am on someone else's post. My mind is a blur. I think I got a total of 1 hour sleep dozing on the couch waiting for SD to sneak past me.
More to come, but not till later in the weekend
Let's just say she's grounded til Nov...or DEC if she doesn't give up her accomplices.
Talked to my mom this afternoon. She thanked me for being smart enough to keep her blissfully ignorant throughout my turbulent teens. She did say I am the "Been there done that" mom, unfortunately for SD it's true!
I'll post over the weekend if I can. But it's DH's weekend and I don't want to take away from it anymore than his ridiculous daughter is already.
"Om Tare Tutare Ture Mama Ayurpunye Jnana Putin Kuru Svaha"
~Sita Tara Mantra
Have a good time Sita!!!
I'll be waiting to hear!
have fun sita!!!!!!!!
"Given the right reasons and the right two people, marriage is a wonderful way of experiencing your life."
~the late great George Carlin
No fair
That was a very suspenseful tale and you leave us hanging????? I can't wait to hear what happened, how you got her and what she did. The funny thing about kids that age is that they really think they are smarter than we are, they have it ALL figured out and they don't care a rats ass what we think. Maybe you might teach her a thing or two.
Now, on a not so supportive note. I know how painful it was to have her rip apart your pictures and all your gifts. It was mean and certainly meant to hurt you. Putting pics of her mom might be for the same reason. She is very angry and wants to stick it to you, that is for sure. However, I think she has a right to put any photo's up in her room no matter how it makes you feel. If you don't respond, and don't show any reaction, she will have failed in hurting you. If you make a big deal out of the pics and make her take them down this could turn very very ugly. I don't think you want to go there.
You are doing a good job. Kind a wish your DH was up with you though.
XXOO Kathleen
Pics....
I have been so understanding about the pics for so long, but I'm done. She only pulls them out and puts them up as a punishment. Then when BM pisses her off they come back down.
I think if she had a pic of her mom she wanted to put up I'd leave it. But I am drawing the line with a pic of BM and DH together. She is blaming me for them not being together anymore too, that's when the pics make an appearance.
My sons' SM helped me with this one. She told me that when she first moved in with my ex, there were still family pics up with me in them, and the boys had a wedding day pic of exH and me in it. Their SM asked them to bring over another pic of me to have in their room, but the family pics/wedding pic had to come down. I let the boys have one of our wedding in their room, but recently told my BS 11 that he should keep those in his wallet or an album and he can put out a pic of his SM and dad together or me and DH together, or his dad only or me only, etc. I think that's really fair.
Oh- and there are several pics I printed for her of her and BM together she could put up, but she doesn't put THOSE up. Only the ones of DH and BM or the three of them. So it is stupid passive aggressive, immature bitchy thing to do.
So I understand your thoughts on it, but...
I don't know that it's an unfair line to draw in the sand at this point. I mean, I NEVER would have put up a pic of my parents together when I was 13, and they were still UNhappily married. I don't think it occurred to me to put one up of them together. This is just another blended BS thing.
"Om Tare Tutare Ture Mama Ayurpunye Jnana Putin Kuru Svaha"
~Sita Tara Mantra
Well......
Accomplices....
Did they steal a car?
Was it a boy?
Did they vandalize?
Were they smoking????????
Were they drinking ??????
It doesn't really even matter does it, because Sita you know it's going to be your fault in the end, only because you don't trust her and she has to sneak around and bla bla bla...heard it all before. Never changes...same shit different kid...................
But, I am very curious, so don't make us wait til October.
Stepwitch
Thank you Disney for portraying a positive image on all stepmothers!!!!
Who knows what they were doing
I am really getting the point of not caring about what happens to her. I only stayed up to catch her because I'm so tired of her trying to get away with anything and everything she can. Especially after she made such a point to brag to me all afternoon about how she was so much better than her friends who sneak out all the time. "I would NEVER do THAT! You're too smart! You'd catch me!"
Damn straight on that miss ma'am.
She is being a totally indignant little cuss this weekend. DEMANDING we let her go to BM's to get her highlights touched up, because BM canceled on her last week.
DEMANDING we take her school clothes shopping, even though when we purchased a ton of clothes for her trip to CA, AZ and TX we told her that was part of her school clothes budget, and that we'd bee looking at what she had, and what she NEEDED before buying anything else. I got her jeans last year she says don't fit, but the size below them is getting too small. They are from Target, so their "ugly" and she is refusing to wear them. I told her that's too bad then, because she doesn't NEED jeans, she has new jeans she was too choosy to wear.
Get over yourself!
"Om Tare Tutare Ture Mama Ayurpunye Jnana Putin Kuru Svaha"
~Sita Tara Mantra
Wow...you are a smart
Wow...you are a smart cookie. It's comical the excuses they come up with. My bf's kids...14 and 16 pull the "we're camping out" and pitch a tent way out in the field...far far far from the house, yet convenient to a dirt lane that goes back to a defunct substation the telephone company used to have. There's no doubt in my mind they're meeting someone after, say, midnight when they know their father is asleep.
Sorry to say
but I would have locked all doors and windows behind her and made DH get up to wait on her. And not open the door till morning.
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