I don't know what to do with SD10
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She is constantly getting in trouble for something. We have major issues at school. I don't feel like going into detail with it all, but I'm at a loss of how to punish her anymore. I usually ground her for a few days. She has to stay in her room except for dinner/bathroom. That's obviously not working. I've taken privileges away. Today I told her dad to spank her because I didn't know what else to do. Right now I have her outside raking leaves. Then I plan on making her run the vacuum in the living and family room. I just don't feel like anything is working. Her behavior just gets worse. Anyone have any suggestions?
Yes do not spank her!!! We
Yes do not spank her!!! We were reported for abuse doing so. Husband did have to speak with law enforcement over it & she was not even left with a mark. I'm sorry but I do believe that spankings should be legal. It sucks having authority tell you what you can't do & leave you feeling like you can't discipline your own child yet watch them get away with whatever they want to do even when it hurts others.
I became so upset with my SD, I put her in a time out in the kitchen at a folding table with her chair & only a glass of water with a deck of cards. I allowed her bathroom breaks, her lunch, & a snack. During this time, I had her dad & brother run the errands in town as I watched a movie while SD sat in the kitchen. Five hours later, she was ready to cooperate with a good attitude for the remaining night. I told her straight up that she is not going to drag everyone down cause she feels like it & when she tries, she will be right back in time out.
It was the best behavior I have ever seen from her during the remaining night. Even her dad has never seen her so cooperative. I used the cards as a tool for her during that time. I watched how often she would play with them & her body language prior to playing with the cards. As for SD, the cards were an outlet when she started feeling anxious. Did wonders.