For those of you I chat with on myspace you will notice some of my blogs are gone. This is because DH is now on Myspace and so is BM. Ugh! I'm trying to keep somethings quiet from DH until I'm ready to leave. If you want to post to me please don't put it on Bulletine Space.
Also I probably won't be on here very much anymore (if at all). Like other's I'm tired of the arguements on this site resently. I come her to vent and for advice, also to listen to other and help if I can. Not to listen to people badmouthing others or calling me a child abuser. I've never abused a kid but yes I have popped the skids on the butt with an open hand. I also had this happen to me when I was a kid and it didn't hurt me. I personally think it helped.
That's one of the problems with some of todays kids. Parents are afraid to take control. There to busy being their kids friends and putting them in time out. Then when they can no longer control their kids they want to blame society and the government. If you don't do your job teaching your kids then YOU failed not society.
If you don't like the video games, TV shows, movies, etc... Then turn the TV off!! No two kids are alike. Where do you get the right to tell me who to punish the skids? That is my husband's choice he's their father.
I personaly don't spank at a moments notice like you might think! We do "time alone to think", extra chores, lose of (TV, electronic games, phone, friends coming over), and we also have a reward system. We spank as a last resort. It's something that DH and I don't like but with the skids it is needed.
If you read my blog before putting your two cents worth in you would know just how out of control my skids are. So miss high and mighty who thinks I'm beating my skids, what would you do with a skid who hit you? She is under court order right now. And it's not just me she hits! She's been known to hit her BM, teachers, sister, grandparents... She was sent to live with us because she was so out of control. At first we never spanked her. You want to know WHO told us to start? The POLICE that had to get her under control after hitting me and the JUDGE who thinks she should be in juvy buts giving her another chance.
I love this site but it's getting out of control with the fighting, name blaming, and blogs like Chava's.
Hey Chava I never posted on your blogs but I was always thinking this. "Does she EVER shut up long enough to get the big picture" What do you think you! The man was married when he started screwing you. Where did you ever get the idea it would be a happy ever after? Once a cheater ALWAYS a cheater. Through your posts you've made it obvious to EVERYONE but yourself that he doesn't want you there. Heck he's moving to get rid of you! How sad is that? You were his midlife crisis. He spends more time with his ex than you. OPEN YOUR EYES! I personally think the only reason he hasn't kicked your lazy pampered ass out is because of you son.
Do your son a favor. Send him back to your parents to live and you GROW UP!
There.... no more holding my tongue!
Anyone else want to screw with me?
Oh and for my true friends here. Thank you from the bottom of my heart. You mean the world to me. Please send me a message and I'll give you my email address and myspace link. To my friends.. I love you all.
OOHHH GEEZ !!!!
What is going on here? Dreamer I guess I have missed something..I'm sorry that you are feeling that you have to defend yourself here, that is not what this site is all about. I don't know who said you were an abuser. I spank too and I think that it's ok, if its done in an appropriate way. I'm not getting into it with the folks that mudsling, I have my opion and if I feel I have something to say, then I post.
As for you, I'm still worried about you, I'm not worried about your stepkids or husband, because you are more important to me. As for the Chava blogs, lets just let all of that go. Seems that I'm loosing alot of my friends here, and I don't like that. You, I consider my friend along with Anne, and Crue and GoingCrazy and many more. I really am disapointed that all this blogging and bulling has gone on and has gone on far so long.
Please don't leave, you know who your friends are....
Stepwitch
Thank you Disney for portraying a positive image on all stepmothers!!!!
Oh Dreamer - I am so sorry
Oh Dreamer - I am so sorry you have also felt attacked on here - this place is getting ridiculous. Hang in there - you know where else to find us.....
Inside every cynical person, there is a disappointed idealist. - George Carlin
i also agree
with spanking sometimes its just the only way to get through. and i also think you should nto go anywhere. i feel like alot of poeple are going round in cirles on here trying to defend themselves at the min and i think it should just stop and every one should eb cool again
Wow, Dreamer
I don't know where that came from! Maybe I missed something, but I never got the impression that anyone ever implied that you were a child-abuser in any fasion or form (and I'm sorry if they did).
What I DO KNOW is that we are all very concerned for YOUR safety with your DH and his violent tendencies toward YOU.
When you wrote that one post a couple of weeks ago in which you were left shaking from the physical fight you had with him, I know we ALL rallied around you with only supportive thoughts and prayers.
And that continues today, as you make your final decision to leave him and plan your final exit strategy and gather your resources.
'Please stay safe' has been the only sentiment that, I think, has resonated on your blogs as a response! And I for one, sincerely mean it. You have been on my mind a lot, and I only hope that you get out of that situation as quickly and quietly as possible, and no further instances of violence occur.
"If you have never been hated by a child, you have never been a parent."
-Bette Davis
Oh Dreamer, dont leave
just ignore. I do. Just take the comments you can use, and leave the rest! I dont want you to go, I consider you a friend! PM me if you need to talk! PS..... I spank too, and NOTHING is wrong w/my boys!
Seems to me that this site
Seems to me that this site and TO MANY CHIEFS AND NOT ENOUGH INDIANS..
Sorry to hear you are leaving damn damn damn Im new and seems like all the wise ones are leaving!! What are us newbies gonna do now??
You have enemies? Good. That means you’ve stood up for something, sometime in your life.
Sir Winston Churchill..
Dreamer, please don't leave!
If anyone has attacked you and called you a child abuser then they're nuts. (Don't care if anyone gets pissed at that....) Like so many others, I am so worried about you and not hearing from you here would really make me panic. I know things have gotten out of control here, but I really think there is still some benefit. You can still vent and be supported and you can ignore the opinions of those here who don't understand you and your situation. I look forward to the day when you let us know that you are safe.
Please dont leave Dreamer.
Please dont leave Dreamer. Please know that a good many of us on here are concerned for your safety and want the best for you.
I dont know how anyone could suggest that you are a child abuser. Clearly they havent been reading ALL your blogs.. otherwise they would know that you are the victim at the hands of the oldest sd and your dh. NOT the other way around.
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