Step Talk

OMG.. ha.

Have you heard rumors on WHERE she is having the reception?? If you have, just have bf call that venue to "verify" the dates. LOL.. you know..

Hi.. I got an invitation to the Sloth wedding, but I misplaced the invite and I hadnt noted down the date. Is Aug 16th correct?

It may work. Give a ficticious name if they ask who.

does he care?

EXACTLY. I suppose it is a little weird to have your ex-spouse getting re-married. He was with her for 15 years of hell, or so he says.

We don't know ANYTHING about the wedding or the reception as the BM will not share info at all. She won't even accept mail, certified or regular from our address. She has told us in the past to "talk to her attorney" whenever any conversation needs to take place about CS or visitation.

She did mention IN COURT when she got her CS upped again that she was going away in august for a "two week vacation". BF's sister has told us that YES she's getting married this month (BF's sister still keeps in contact with one of BF's older brothers; the traiterous one who took BM's side and told BF to dump me) He is attending the BM's wedding.

In court BF said to BM "you are going on vacation AGAIN?" and then BM made a pretense of cooperation with BF on visitation (because the authorities were looking on) and said "do you want to watch the skids for the 2 weeks?" and BF said "I don't know why you are asking now; over the past 3 1/2 years you have never notified me of anything"

I love it!!!!

Our loonie-bin BM got married last month (as a pirate by the way, presided over by captain hook, with pirate flag waving and treasure chest full of chocolate cold coins for the rings - I'm not kidding) and my DH didn't give a rat's ass. If anyone cared it was me, not him, he was actually happy because her new husband has to deal with her now...he was pretty much skipping down the street...I was pissed because her 'kids birthday party wedding' made a mockery out of marriage and what lesson does that show the kids - marry someone, have kids & you can leave them whenever you want for your best friend's husband (which she did) and then you can get remarried as Aladdin & Princess Jasmine! how fun!

But we didn't find out until like a week before the day...but it didn't make much impact...if you want to know, just ask the skids yourself I guess. DH obviously cares or he wouldn't keep asking.

~ Remember it's your life too ~

but part of me thinks he still cares; it's probably a weird feeling to know that your wife of 11 years is getting remarried, even though they are mortal enemies (well not really, she is a total monster to him; and BF ALWAYS gives HER the benefit of the doubt!)

In fact during our life insurance "discussion" he brings up once again my previous marriages and says "well at least BM WORKED during our marriage" (as a part time under the table day care worker even though she had a bachelors degree bought and paid for by BF!!)

So I said "why are you comparing apples to oranges? Who was the breadwinner during your marriage?" After dodging and weaving, he then reaffirmed that "at least BM worked and YOUR ex-hubbies didn't"
And I said again "who would the IRS consider the breadwinner in your marriage to BM???"

And he wouldn't answer b/c he KNEW HE was the breadwinner! And I said "well I was the breadwinner in my marriages so you can't compare my marriages with yours!!"

Doesn't your DH have a right to know who will be watching your kids when they are living there? I am not saying go to the wedding, but to add another 'parent' to the mix seems an introduction would be in order?!! Even if they don't meet, at least get to know who it is? very odd . . .

"A lie told often enough becomes the truth." - Vladimir Lenin

in the DD it states that she is supposed to. We have found out through the grapevine that slanderous BM"s mom will be watching the skids. Both BF and myself have new jobs with no vaca. BM has violated the DD about a billion times in the last almost 3 years, yet BF NEVER holds her accountable or in contempt. This is in spite of the fact that BM holds BF's feet to the FIRE on every letter of that DD when it comes to HIS share of the bargain.

For example the mediation agreement, instead of spelling out that:

BF will claim 2 skids for taxes on every odd year and BM will claim 2 skids for taxes on every even years, until, etc. etc. it says:

"BF will be allowed to claim AT LEAST ONE child every year for taxes"

How does BM interpret this? That's right! BF always claims only ONE skid and BM always claims two skids. And legally she can the way it is vaguely written according to our attorney!

BF vascilates so often it makes my head spin! One day he says "oh when oldest (that he is claiming on his taxes) reaches 21, then she can claim the other two and i will claim no kids" WTF???!!!!

Then the next day he says "no way, I'm going to claim a kid when oldest reaches 21"

He will NEVER do anything in writing or hold her in contempt. Of course BM REFUSES to re-mediate this horrible slanted in her fav mediation (why should she, she's GOLDEN). Our attorney basically says what's done is done and it would be way too costly to do over.