Step Talk

My daughter will be six at the end of February. She was potty-trained at 2 and fully self-sufficient in the the bathroom by 4, but if she's in a hurry to get back to what she is doing, she still needs the occasional reminder. They still don't have the longest of attention spans at this age and they sometimes get in a hurry to go back to whatever they were doing. Impulse control is still developing. If he's forgetting every single time, then yeah, you have a problem and that problem can only be solved with consistency, which you know. If it's just every now and then when he's in a hurry to get back to what he was doing, well, that will come in time with reminders. My mom taught Kindergarten for many years and her biggest frustration was not kids forgetting to flush, but kids forgetting to go to the toilet BEFORE they pee or poop. Ugh. My daughter's biggest problem wasn't in refusing to wipe, but in not taking the time to get herself clean enough. We got her some of those flushable wipes and now she's good to go. I guess they make it more exciting, if that's possible. Maybe if you got him some of those flushable kiddee wipes and special pump soap for kids, he'd be more interested in doing a more thorough job.

♥ ANNE 8102 ♥

"I know why families were created with all their imperfections. They humanize you. They are made to make you forget yourself occasionally, so that the beautiful balance of life is not destroyed." ~ Anais Nin

with my BD now 12. When she 8 to 10 years old she would not wipe and he undies were just nasty. I scolded her I don't know how many times. I even told her she could get a bladder infection from her dirty undies and nothing worked. She would even hide her them in her drawer so I would not find them in the wash. NASTY! I am not sure but I think someone smelled her and called her on it and it resolved itself.

I agree that the special wipes and soap help to encourage the proper bahavior. It worked well with my BD7. You don't even have to get the spendy special soap. just decorate a liquid soap dispenser and tell the child it is only for them and its special soap.

he was just staring at a commercial on TV and then pacing around just before he went in to the bathroom. I think he lives in a "careless" environment at BM's house; every one there is selfish to the MAX! It's hard to believe he's only 5 1/2 too, he's tall as a tree, he easily dwarfs his preschool mates. BM is almost 6' tall so SS LOOKS older than he is.

I think it's laziness as well. That's why BF told me not to put his "pullups" on too early before he goes to bed b/c he'll just wet in them!! WTF??!! Now that is outright laziness!

My SD still does this at age 11. We moved about 2 months ago, and she now has "her own" bathroom. The soap in "her" bathroom is still at about the same level as it was when we moved in.

Its really rather disgusting. I'm sick of trying to potty train an 11 year old though.

Skids 9 one of each, still occassionally dont flush.. be it pee or poop. and sometimes the non flushed poop doesnt have tp in the toilet. sooooo I can only assume that individual has NOT wiped their butts.

I have given up.. I just call my dh in there to flush. He KNOWS this is a sticking point w/me. I have babysat children before, and I know they are capable of doing this function. My skids bm is just lazy.. and I think half the time pretends like ss isnt even there.

I make sure they wash their hands just before eating.. I dont care if they just came out of the bathroom.. there is NO guarantee til I see them do it. YUK!

TP in the toilet after SS's dumps! So i KNOW he is not wiping nor washing his hands!

And then there is the peeing all over the toilet and seat and floor. LOVELY! I have a bio son and I trained him to "aim" at small pieces of toilet paper in the toilet.

I'm sure BM has done none of this with both SSs as she phones in her parenting

My BD just turned 5, and here's how I handle it when she goes to the bathroom: Once she's done I ask "Did you wipe? Did you flush? Did you wash your hands? Did you turn off the light?" She has been guilty of not doing one or more of these things almost consistently. Just lack of attention, I believe. Now she will come to me and say, "I wiped and flushed and washed my hands and turned off the light." Consistency and repetion, and she's getting pretty reliable. But it did take time. Keep at it!

It used to mean "outwitting children" by using certain phraseology like "special soap" as mentioned earlier.

SOOOOO SS refused to eat his hot dog b/c there were GRILL MARKS on the hot dog (this has been a constant with skids; BF told me that they WILL NOT eat anything with grill marks on it; when BF first moved in I thought "you've got to be KIDDING, RIGHT?" WRONG!)

So BF says "just peel it off, honey."

So THEN i used "child psychology"

I picked up a hot dog with grill marks on it and said to SS "WATCH THIS" and i said "I"M NOT AFRAID OF THIS HOT DOG" and proceeded to munch away.

THEN SS picked up his hot dog and said "I"M NOT AFRAID EITHER" and started eating it w/o the ridiculous peeling off the grill marks.

Hope I'm not offending any vegetarians out there and no we eat hot dogs maybe once every 3 months (SD eats them once a day at BM's house)

So I said to BF "haven't you ever heard of child psychology?" and he looked dumbfounded!

My SS is turning six in two months & he never flushes - and I mean NEVER. I am always reminding him. Not once has he remembered to flush. His BM doesn't care, she has no rules at her house so whatever...I just deal with it. It's gross & my kids would never do that but he'll learn, when his friends make fun of him when he's older for leaving 'presents' in the toilet He won't do that again.

~ Remember it's your life too ~

Youngest SS has two older siblings but I'm thinking they don't correct him; they probably just add to the "mound" until someone decides that it might not flush down and does the "deed."