So I have to assume she is plotting something. I should hear shortly, and then watch out.
On Friday we offered BM some money (per our lawyer) in lieu of CS (which she said she didn't "need" from us). We also suggested a custody arrangement whereby husband would have SD every other weekend year-round, plus two five-day weeks in the summer.
Husband informed me that BM is trying to come up with a way that SD doesn't have to come here AT ALL. Funny how she wants to go from 70 percent our custody to 0 percent. And funny how that 70 percent us was good for four years. Husband says she's doing this because in her mind 15 is the magical age where SD can call all the shots about custody, and SD turned 15 in March.
I am waiting to see what BM's counteroffer will be, considering that husband at one point offered an option where we only had SD one weekend a month but BM didn't go for that. If she holds out and goes to court, I think she's going to get a rude awakening. I don't think a judge would look at this situation in which BM had left SD for four years and say it was so terrible it needed to be completely changed.
I guess we'll see!
I highly doubt it as well.
Judges don't relinguish custody based on the tantrums of 15-year-old little girls and 15-year-old acting BMs.
"For every ailment under the sun....There is a remedy, or there is none;
If there be one, try to find it; If there be none, never mind it." ~ W.W. Bartley
I agree with
CG. I dont think you have much to worry about.
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Now what?
Now my husband is threatening to give BM an ultimatum to either make a settlement or go to court. I don't want that, with lawyer's fees and all the hassle. And he's threatening to keep SD here, which no one but him wants either. Aargh. I was hoping they could come to some sort of amicable (sort of) arrangement, but this has been dragging on for seven months now with no resolution.
sorry
you are going through this this can not be a nice situation to be in
but just think when its all over things will be better not worse theres jsut going to be a bit of turbulence on your way stay strong
Ask him where he is getting
Ask him where he is getting the $$ for the lawyer.. then make clear that you will NOT be funding this endeavor.
I say.. let her go w/o the visitation.. view it as a win win for YOU and your bio daughters.
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