I really think the skids need to go to counseling and have talked to BF about it. He agrees but when he brought it up to BM she said absolutely not. You see, he is not supposed to have any say in the children's lives, or make any type of medical or personal decisions because BM needs to have all the control. She was taking them to a counselor when they first separated and was trying to say that the kids were afraid of BF and all this other crap. She was present during the counseling sessions too so of course the kids couldn't say what they really wanted to because she was there. She all of the sudden stopped taking them after a few sessions probably because she realized her plan wasn't going to work. It is very evident that she is brainwashing them (attempting to), trying to poison their minds against us, and even asking them to lie to BF about certain things.
So how does he go about getting them into counseling. He does not want her to be present during the counseling sessions either. Does anyone have any experience with this?
If he has joint legal he can
If he has joint legal he can take them to counseling during his time.
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I have a question
In my DH's custody papers it states that both parents are supposed to be informed of anything to do with Health and education. If that is the case how can a non custodial parent take a child to a therapist without consulting the other parent? Just wondering.
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In situations like that
In situations like that "informing" does not require consent. The wording of orders are important in this regard.
"The beauty of life is, while we cannot undo what is done, we can see it, understand it, learn from it and change, So that every new moment is spent not in regret, guilt, fear or anger, but in wisdom, understanding, and love."
It is in the court papers
The papers say that neither parent can take the children to a counselor without the other parents consent.
then i don't see how you can get around this.
other than getting the 'agreement' changed. i agree that ALL skids should attend counselling. my SS included. but that won't happen - all adults involved (except me) are in denial. so, as a result, the stepparents have to deal with the mess. keep trying.... it's worth it.
Just trying to be a Stepmom without getting Stepped On.
I would file a motion to modify the agreement
I would request a GAL, let them know that BF thinks the kids need a counselor, and that BM is refusing to allow it.
She will either have to do it, or the modification will occur. As a matter of fact, I would try to modify that BF has shared legal custody. This is something that I wish more people understood when they are determining custody issues. You can have full physical custody to one parent, but LEGAL custody to both. That means that both parents have to be informed and included in medical, school, etc decisions. We were granted full legal and physical, because BM cannot make good decisions on SD's behalf (doesn't know how to separate herself from SD due to Personality disorder.)
So BM cannot veto anything we do, but legally can't take SD for non-emergent care, or sign for surgery etc.
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