Step Talk

I forgot to add one thing i think this was all planned because she kept phoning our house yesterday and i heard my ss say i will think about it and i even told my dh something was up and when he came home yesterday i said told ya so.

I ve learned a while ago, out of sight out of mind.
I have been with DH 6 years married for 2.I have come face to face 3 times with BM.and one horrible conversation on the phone. I avoid her like the plauge. I think after her and I got into on the phone my DH PREFERS me not to be anywhere near her,so I don't.I love my SS but, his kid his job,and I wear the shoe on the other foot,sometimes I prefer him to stay out of MY buisness with my kids.I wouldn't put myself in a situation like that again.

My husband works 6 days a week so it is hard for him to get home at 6 and thaen drive for an hour if traffic isnt bad.Also i was trying to be the good sm so sd can get her full visitation in.

I gave up trying to be the good stepmom a long time ago, it never seems to work out. I hope DH handles the ex appropriately.

That is the type of CRAP that my skids BM would pull. Girl I would not deal with the drop offs and pick ups with that crazy woman. Your DH needs to work this out with BM. I would make her drop off the children for visitations since she is making it impossible for DH.

I will be honest though. We have custody of the children but because of all that BM has pulled I will not let her go near my house if she were to pick up the children (once every century). She is a professional victim and I just don't trust her. Any pickups and dropoffs will have to be made in a public place with her. I would suggest the same for you.

I am so sorry.

"GO BACK TO YOUR BRIDGE YOU EVIL TROLL. YOU HAVE NO POWERS HERE"

We have tried the public place thing and half the time she would be late or not show up or start something you can not interact with this women at all.I dont want this women if thats what you call her she is a disgrace at my house because she has been violent and i dont want that around my bs or at my home.

If you're going to have to be the one to pick up and drop off the kids, then it needs to be in a public place. And bring a camcorder next time. Whenever I have to go pick up or drop off SS (on the very, very rare occasion that I do - maybe 2 or 3 times in the past year) I always bring my camera so that I can make recordings of what happens, just in case.

I would suggest having your husband set down some strict ground rules with BM about these pick ups and drop offs. If she lives in a townhome complex then there's probably a park or community property area. She could meet you there with the kids unless she wants to drive them back and forth herself, which if she's anything like my BF's ex wife that will never happen.

But just a suggestion, never ever get out of your car even if she approaches it. Just sit there and wait for the kids. I know that it is annoying and hard to do, but trust me you will thank yourself that you did. If she really wanted to, she could claim that you assaulted her by getting out of your car. It's easy for people to lie and make it look like you did something you didn't do. Just stay buckled in and record what she does.

*~So sayeth Nymh~*

There is a park nearby but it makes us nervous that dropping our 14 year old girl walking alone.We actually did that once cause she pulled this crap before and it was dark out we sat on the road not in front of her house but actually on the road she locked sd out until we left once we pulled away she let her in because we drove around the block to make sure this women is evil.

My brain is somewhere else. I meant to post this here but wound up posting this on someone elses blog. DOH!

My oldest SS has grown to resent his mother. Not because anything we do or say. It is because she keeps terrorizing our home and because she kept taking us to court for the BS kept us broke. He knows we can't do for him because we have to pay the Attorney. It makes him angry.

Document EVERYTHING. If you can get a police report for what she did get it. Did a police officer come out? It takes a lot of time and energy but keep a very highly detailed account of what is going on. Most BM's like your skids BM don't do the documentation thing thinking your DH is not going to do a thing. Well I am here to tell you I did it for my DH and he won the last court case and the judge saw right through BM. We finally have justice but it took years of documentation.

"GO BACK TO YOUR BRIDGE YOU EVIL TROLL. YOU HAVE NO POWERS HERE"

I called my dh just 10 minuetes ago because she phoned here just half hour ago and told me that she needed the info off our truck for passports because they are going away well you dont need passports to just go to another province we live in canada.Why couldnt she ask ss he lives with us and knows address and phone number etc..Why would she tell me to get off her property then or she calls police i wasnt even on her dump property i would be scared to catch something.So i think she was just phoning here to ask to come get kids again the answer is no.I told her i was sick of her bulls...and to get a grip and move on and hung up on her.So i called my hubby and we are going to record this and go to police station and tell them she is harassing us and to make a report.I told my dh its either we do something or i will have an assault charge on my record and he will be bailing me out of jail he can choose.

Sd just phoned and asked that her mom wanted to know if we would pick them up tomorrow i said no.She then said her brother has no clothes there so i said for her to tell her mother to go buy some.So i hang up with sd and guess who phones back 2 seconds later asked if we were ready to be hauled back to court i just hung up on her.

She isnt even leaving canada so they dont need a passport you can travel freely in canada.I know because i have travelled canada and never needed any passport.

That is my thought and that is why we have to go to police station and let them know and record her harrassment.

I'm happy for you, sam. Now you have the perfect excuse to stop being their chauffeur.

♥ ANNE 8102 ♥

From now on don't respond with anything other than you will have to speak to your father about that if it's the skids or you will have to talk to my husband if it's the BM. Don't say anything else to them. And tell your husband that you will talk to your skids only when they are with you, not on the phone when they are with her. And you will not speak to her at all or do any more pick ups or drop offs.

She wants your vehicle information to first report that you are harrassing her. Then you go back over there to pick up the kids and the police will be waiting for you. You are too smart for that game.

"GO BACK TO YOUR BRIDGE YOU EVIL TROLL. YOU HAVE NO POWERS HERE"

I would've sat there- let her call the police they do get sick of it- you were on the road- as far as I know thats public property!

I used to have to transport and especially while we were in midst of the custody case I always had another adult with me and recorded on my cell phone everything from the minute I put the car into park til I was a few blocks away- it did come in handy once when BM actually called the police and had a crackhead friend back up a total lie about me verbally attacking her. BM never did that again afterwards.

There is no reason where logic does not exist

These ladies are right Sam. You dont need to get yourself hurt or sick over any of this. Let your husband stand in the way of her taking everything out on you. Let him protect you. She is a lunatic!

Would the police meet you to her house to pick them up? Or would the cops in your town be present at your house when she brings them. I'm from a small town and I guess the cops don't have enough going on but they would do it for us.

I think this would take a few times for her to get a clue.

"OCD sucks"
Habit and routine have an unbelievable power to destroy.
--Henri de Lubac