I had a great heart to heart chat with my BF the other night. I could tell he was still confused about what he should do with his ex and how to deal with her. I told him about this site and how much everyone here has opened my eyes to the different strategies their men have used to deal with their ex, and what won't work. I told him I have nothing to hide and that he is free to look at anything I have posted. I really hope he decides to come on here and read some of your posts and gets the hint that trying to have a normal relationship with his ex probably won't work and that he needs to take back his life, because if he doesn't his life will always be her life.
I know that some of you have been in my shoes, where you are trying to decide if it is worth it to make a life with someone who has a drama addicted ex in their life or to just say "I pass". I love him dearly and I think that our relationship is worth the hassle of the ex. I don't care what his ex has to say about me, but I do care about how he is choosing to deal with it. I hope that reading some of the examples posted here will open his eyes and he will stand up to the ex and say "this is my life, and the only thing we share is our daughter, otherwise you have no business in anything else that is going on in my life. And there will be no way in hell will I ever take you back." But that is in a perfect world. We will just see how things will turn out, and my current motto is "it is what it is" and if it works out great but if it doesn't I will be ok with it.
Has anyone else had their BF or DH read some of the posts, and did it help them? Thanks for all of you help.
my FH hasnt read any BUT
he knows that i blog on this site and has read responses and other posts when we were going thru all the custody and abuse crap. everything im feeling i pretty much tell him to his face but he has said that hes happy i come here if it helps me deal w it all, plus hes thankful for all the advice we've gotten.
"Given the right reasons and the right two people, marriage is a wonderful way of experiencing your life."
~the late great George Carlin
I tell my DH some of the
I tell my DH some of the stuff I read on here, but I haven't actually showed it to him. It's in our browsing history, though, if he ever wants to look. I sometimes have this sneaking suspicion that he's reading my blogs and posts, because he always seems to have an idea about what might be bothering me, and sometimes he takes action about it before I've even told him! If it's working out that way, I don't care if he reads away! I'll continue to share stories with him from here, too, because they have opened up some good conversations about our own situation too.
I have had that happen too
"I sometimes have this sneaking suspicion that he's reading my blogs and posts, because he always seems to have an idea about what might be bothering me, and sometimes he takes action about it before I've even told him"
Very rarely do I even have material to vent about DH. So it is ironic when I finally do, then that day he resolves the issue out of the blue. BUT...
DH and I have complete trust and communication. I think that I may actually end up venting here, then we talk through it soon after. So perhaps the venting here allows us to have a more productive conversation later, and the issue gets resolved seemingly effortlessly.
But I know many women on this site don't have DH's who are good listeners/communicators.
"Om Tare Tutare Ture Mama Ayurpunye Jnana Putin Kuru Svaha"
~Sita Tara Mantra
You're smart SS
I like your style! Wish my DH was technically savvy and could check history.
At the end of the day when
At the end of the day when we are sitting down together on the couch to watch a little TV and deprogram our brains, I read some posts to DH. I never read him mine verbatum but I do tell him what I post about.
I was thinking last night that DH should have a site like this to go to too.
I tell him about them.
My DH knows about this site and he's read a little bit, but usually if a topic hits home with me, then I bring it up in conversation and we discuss it. I think it helps to know that other people go through the same stuff we do.
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Tell Him to Join, Us Guys are Few, Here...We Need The Help...
Seriously, My Old Lady is the one that told Me about this site, and it has Helped a Lot. We have had a LOT of Good Advice, from The Girls, and even when They Agreed With Me, She realized I wasn't that particular type of Crazy, Other People, Girls Even, understood and Shared My Feelings and Viewpoint...
Steve
Kids are the Best and Worst Things We can do to Ourselves. When We have nothing else worth living for, We'll go on, for Them, but Oh How We Miss Our Freedom...LOL
I usually talk with DH
I usually talk with DH either before or after posting and he normally knows I have posted, he has read some of them I will write with him right next to me, he already knows how I feels and hasn't said or done anything to make me think he has a problem with it.
There is no reason where logic does not exist
I too
I too have shared my posts with hubby. I have read different things to him from other posters on here as well. Sometimes he even suggests I go online and post and see what others have to offer for advice. I think we are all in this mess and having the support on here is great!
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