Step Talk

That oldest SD is so evil and fake that his own family hates to be around her. That middle SD seems OK on the surface, but still waters run deep (she's proven it too) and the youngest SD is BY FAR the most evil of all. She wants me dead. Seriously. Keep in mind that all of these SDs are adults.

I would tell him that his 16 year old daughter is a little theiving 'ho. Oh, wait...he already knows that. Okay, I'd tell him his 14 y.o. son is a theiving, drug using liar...oh, wait, he already knows that because the kid just got arrested.

Hmmmm...I guess I'd tell him, "I TOLD YOU SO!!!!"

Some things I've already said...I don't hold back much. But, I don't think he realizes that he treats SS10 with kid gloves and that he is FAR more priveleged than SD7 (and NOT just because of age). I think most fathers have that "my son is my prince" attitude, and sometimes I feel like SD7 gets left out because of that, and she knows and accepts it, which is even sadder to me. Perhaps that is why she soaks up the baby talk and cuddling her mother gives her, even though she enjoys her independence at our house.

I would tell him that his kids are not as polite and well-behaved as he often thinks they are; they can actually be quite snotty and ill-mannered. I would also tell him that part of the reason why he doesn't notice these bad behaviors (mostly manners stuff) is because he is too busy doing the exact same thing! I would tell him that he hand-holds them far too much when it comes to independent life skills and that it holds them back.

I would tell him that, even though he thinks he doesn't spoil them, (and he certainly doesn't as much as their mom does), he still gives them a lot of leniency and "stuff" too...more than they need or deserve.

In all, though, I would also tell him that I see him really making an effort to do the right thing and to be gentle with his kids since our way of living is such a culture-shock from what they are used to at BM's. I see him cultivating patience that I don't know if I could ever have. I see in him the kind of father I want for my kids (at least MOST of the time! LOL).

His kids know that he loves them, regardless of how many phone calls he makes, what kinds of fun things he takes them to do, how many priveliges they are allowed, or how many things they own. He shows his love daily, and he is probably the best at doing that out of any man I know.

OK, this became more about DH than his kids, but I tried!

i already do! i tell him anything thats on my mind...so he knows exactly how i feel about everything!

"Given the right reasons and the right two people, marriage is a wonderful way of experiencing your life."
~the late great George Carlin

Lord only knows I have said EXACTLY what I thought, If I dont then I neglect my own feelings and the respect I deserve.
" If it Looks like a duck..walks like a duck, then it must be a duck" Right!!

" Life is like a jar or Jalapeno peppers, what you
do today could burn your a*s tomorrow."

There is NO filter from my mind to my mouth so DH gets to hear it all whether he wants to hear it or not. He knew that when he married me so there is no need for him to get upset with me now!

My hubby also knows how I feel about his kids. Ive told him I dont want anything to do with them and that I think they are scum. He actually agrees with me and doesnt want to see them either. Ive never hid my views about his children and its so good to be able to tell him the truth. I did like them at first, but its impossible to like spoiled, ignorant, thick, selfish, money grabbing miniatures of their mother.