Well, I decided to go with Dh and ss to the orthodontist appointment. We got there about 15 min. early and had a few papers to sign. Ss and another boy got called back at the same time. The other mother got up to go back too and the ortho. assistant told that mother that they just wanted the kids. Bm was late so she didn't see ss before he went back.
Bm comes flying into the waiting room and blurts out "did they take him?" We said "yes". Then she asks if WE, meaning HER, can go back there. I told her that she couldn't since the other mother had tried and got rejected. So Bm sits down right next to ME acting all concerned and asking if ss was nervous. Ok, now I know why ss was acting a little anxious. Bm evidently had him all worked up about it. I kept telling him that it's not that big of deal. Half of the kids in his school have braces and went through the same thing. It's much easier now than when I had braces. I told him it would be a piece of cake. Of course Dh told Bm that ss wasn't nervous, even though I knew better, I kept my mouth shut.
So I got to sit next to Bm for an hour. Thank goodness I brought a book.
Then Dh's cell phone rang and he stepped out of the room. Wouldn't you know it the assistant came out and wanted to know how many parents had kids getting their braces on, and Dh wasn't there. Bm practically jumped out of her seat to raise her hand. I kind of only had mine up half way because they were trying to get a head count and they didn't realize we were with the same kid because we were two women.
So the assistant told all of the parents waiting about what foods the kids shouldn't eat, blah, blah, blah. I hope Bm was paying attention as much as she acted like she was! Of course the assistant never looked at me, she was focusing on Bm.
Then ss comes out, shows Bm his braces, WE pay(Bm didn't bring her half) and made the next appointment.........the end. No big deal. Just like I thought. Why Bm has to make such a big deal about everything I don't know.
Since Bm didn't pay us her half, we just made the next appointment on her time and told her SHE could pay next time.
Why is taking ss to these routine appointments so "special" to her. I mean Bm really had herself fixed up like she was going on a date or something. Ss could care less. I guess maybe it's a guilt thing since she screwed up so bad when ss was little.
Dawn
Because of insecurities
BMs suffer just as a result of the dynamics between themselves and us, I think. They view themselves and their status as Mom as constantly under assault by the "other woman" in their kids' lives. They have to try harder to out-mom us in every way, resulting in pampered, over-protected, and immature skids--in my case, anyway. My BM has to be more emotional, more protective, more nosy, more intrusive, more. . . everything, than I am. Since I regularly have to disengage to save my sanity, maybe she senses my detachment and that also fuels her histrionics.
I remain, the world's most evil stepmom; ask anyone.
She's an idiot...
Man does that bell ring clear. We, too, are the bank that is forever dishing out money. She trapes around as the concerned mother for her precious daughters and we foot the bill.
I just got THREE bills in the mail yesterday for Dr. appts that BM took the girls to. She was concerned enough to have them seen but not concerned enough to pay. She already owes us $115.00 from bills in January.
ARGH. One day the Bank of Colorado Girl is CLOSING forever.
"For every ailment under the sun....There is a remedy, or there is none;
If there be one, try to find it; If there be none, never mind it." ~ W.W. Bartley
BM is into DH for bills from
BM is into DH for bills from the past two+ years and she refuses to pay because she didn't pick the drs!!!!! nutcase!So we will soon be taking ehr into court for the first time since getting custody as we approach the grand+ mark.
There is no reason where logic does not exist
Fruit Loop Alert!!!
Attention attention a Fruit Loop just walked into the office alert alert!!!
"GO BACK TO YOUR BRIDGE YOU EVIL TROLL. YOU HAVE NO POWERS HERE"
Medical bills
BM is a semi-hypochondriac and takes the kids in for every little thing. She is generally put as the responsible party but DH is the primary on the insurance. DH pays the entire premium but they spilt all out of pocket expenses. Recently one of the SK's had a rather large bill and she put DH as the responsible party. Odd! Typically we will pay our half directly to the Dr. anyway and she will pay hers. We paid our half for the bill and I let her know what her half was and she could pay the Dr. directly. She ignored the bill (which is not typical for her really) and when called her on it after we received a collection notice from the Dr. she blaimed everyone but herself. I had the primary switched to her after that and they sent her to collections.
If your BM is not paying you back I suggest you only pay your half, ask the Dr. to bill you then give them her info. Most offices are familiar with the divorce situation.
Obi Won KanoBM..
works at the Dr.'s office.
She is a Jedi Knight who has manipulated a way to have ALL bills forwarded to DH. He is also the "responsible party" because he carries the insurance thru his work.
I've called the Dr.'s office...but they are her co-workers and her friends. I'm sure there is nothing I can do about it because I've already tried.
So I just pay the bills and hope she'll reimburse it. She usually does but it just takes a while.
Score for BM.
"For every ailment under the sun....There is a remedy, or there is none;
If there be one, try to find it; If there be none, never mind it." ~ W.W. Bartley
Obi Won KanoBM...
Obi Won KanoBM... HYSTERICAL!
That will be stuck in my head all weekend. Thanks for the laugh. I needed it! The SK are due here in 1 hour 45 minutes.
Freak
My SK's BM also makes the kids so nervous and freaked out. She is such a jerk. I think they do it so their babies will neeeeeeeed them. Gag!
My SD, then 8, had to be taken to the dentist to have a very wiggly baby tooth removed. She wouldn't let anyone touch her then howled at the dentist. This set it up and she had to have at least one more pulled later. I suspect more but we had such a fit BM stopped telling us.
Same here
Our crazy BM is a true over-the-top true hypochondriac (sp?) who runs the girls to the doctor's for the littlest thing. Instead of being a calming force in a child's life and saying things like, "It's ok- you'll be fine," she freaks them out even more by telling them things like:
"Mommy thinks it could be skin cancer." (a little mole)
"Mommy thinks I have diabetes." (because the child was drinking a little more during the week)
"Mommy thinks I could have menegitis." (someone in the community had died from it and they knew the person casually- she rushed them to the doctor's and demanded the antibiotics)
Oh, the list is much longer (and sicker) but you get my point.
In her case, she PLAYS the part of concerned mother, but it's all for show.
Now here's the twisted part...
when they actually ARE sick and really need medicine...she never follows through in giving it to them, especially antibiotics, which we all know are critical in getting every dose on time.
As a mother of a child who has special needs and was truly sickly as a small child, I really resent people like this- people who just go out of their way to make up something out of nothing just to make themselves look like 'mothers of the year'.
I have many friends who have children with severe medical issues and have been through hell and back with their children, in dealing with major surgeries and lengthy hospital stays. I have been to children's funerals. Women like these should get down on their knees and give thanks to God every day that they HAVE HEALTHY children and stop with this nonsesne.
It just makes me want to slap her silly when she does it.
"If you have never been hated by a child, you have never been a parent."
-Bette Davis
5teens
I hear ya! Personally I have been very fortunate with my children's health and I am very sympatetic for those who had to take a different path.
The BM has had them in for menangitus, staph infections, asthma, a mole (CANCER!), She herself now has lime disease from a bite she got 30 YEARS AGO! She spent the last 5 years at nursing school (on our dime) and now was just hired at the hospital as an RN. She was bad before but now she has a full candy store of illness to choose from.
What really gets me is, she refuses to allow us to take the kids to get flu shots with us every year and now that both girls are old enough she will not allow them to have the Guarasil vaccination. UGH!
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