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or State to state? Because when DH had shared parenting and we paid 500 a month, our attorney told us they do count the BP's additional children (not step which is stupid, especially since I only get 200 a month for both my sons, obviously DH is supporting them as well.)

So I would definitely ask your lawyer about that one.

"Om Tare Tutare Ture Mama Ayurpunye Jnana Putin Kuru Svaha"
~Sita Tara Mantra

When BM took DH back to court for more, she ended up with far less. About $500/month less. (He was paying over $1300/month for two kids and it dropped to $800/month.) Since the original amount was established, he'd had two more kids with me and yes, they did enter into the equation. The main reason ours dropped so much, though, was because BM was making so much more than DH. I think the way it's calculated in our state is pretty fair. It takes second families into consideration and also both parents income and earning potential.

Some states, though, are not so fair and some judges are just way too biased in favor of the mother. We really need one federal law and one federal agency that determines how CS is calculated and how CS and visitation are enforced. Leaving it to the states is crazy, especially when so many NCPs and children live in different states and when the cost-of-living in these states varies. At one point, BM lived in a low cost-of-living state and we lived in the highest cost-of-living state. Our dollar didn't stretch anywhere near as far as hers did during that time and the amount was a killer. We've moved and are in much better shape now, but still. It's not true that five hundred bucks is five hundred bucks. It may be enough to support a kid living in, say, southside Virginia, but it's not anywhere near close enough to support a kid living three hours away in the DC area. CS should be decided the way BAH is decided, with all dependents and the cost-of-living taken into consideration.
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ANNE 8102 | GEORGIA

Or did SD just come to live there?

If you had legal physical custody, then I would look into suing for back child support. That oughta get her goat and make it even.

"Om Tare Tutare Ture Mama Ayurpunye Jnana Putin Kuru Svaha"
~Sita Tara Mantra

I have been known to incite small riots before stuff like this, too; however, it's damn sad when we have to resort to such tactics to get what we need and more importantly deserve. Did your DH file for CS and she refused to pay it? Or was he trying to be the nice guy and let her off the hook?

I'd research suing for back support if I were you, but if you're in PA, forget it. We already did explore the possibility, and it can't be done. Maybe you live in state where it's possible to go for back CS.

I've heard nearly the same exact BS from my DH's ex. She doesn't need the support, at least that's what she said a year ago. And she said it over and over again. Here we are a year later and she certainly wasted no time filing for CS after she got the kid living with her.

DH was so PROUD of himself at their CS hearing when the mediator said to DH, "You owe $800 a month!" and BB piped up with, "I don't need THAT much but I'll take $400." WTF-ever. I'm still waiting for the court order to come in the mail to see what exactly DH agreed to.

Unlike you, I never could've sat through a hearing with either DH or BM. My mouth would've landed me in the poke or else I would've brandished my stupid stick on both of their heads.

As far as the car insurance goes, call your agent and find out what their policy states about adding her or providing her with a policy. I'd bet BM wants your DH to pay for it because she's already checked into it, and she knows how expensive it's going to be.