Step Talk

I voted yes. I am not sure I will still feel that way in a few years. It just seems like BM isn't interested in giving them much of her time, attention and affection. No, she doesn't completely neglect them or physically abuse them, but she isn't really "present", and I think that can be just as harmful. She disagrees w/ DH just to be disagreeable and the kids keep getting stuck in the middle. He and I are at least on the same page and could provide a consistent, loving, intelligent home environment.

After last years custody battle....it's the only way it would work for me!"~waiting on the world to change~"

The judge signed the Order in May for me to adopt my stepson.

My husband adopted my son and is in the process of adopting my daughter.

My son's Bio-mom is a deadbeat - never paid support. He's almost 12.

My son's biofather never paid a dime - never seen him - has 4 other kids the same age - same situation

my daughter's biofather consistently pays support but hasn't contact her since she was 9 - and he lives a mile from us - he actually runs the other direction as does his mom if they see us out.

many variables; age (yours, your husband, the kids), biokids?? finances, retirement, ......

This decision will impact you for the rest of your life and the lives of your biokids. For me, I have my own kids & I owe it to them not to entangle myself with problems. I would like to be a stress free grandmother for my biokids children.

Only if BM either made the decision to not be an active mother or if the powers that be decided that fate for her...

"For every ailment under the sun....There is a remedy, or there is none;
If there be one, try to find it; If there be none, never mind it." ~ W.W. Bartley

I really don't know the answer to this question anymore, although it did make me smile that one of the options was "over BM's dead body."

But that's not true, I do know the answer and the answer is YES. I love SD8 and I would adopt her if I could.

And I say that because, despite her faults, I know she's doing the best job she knows how to do raising those kids and I'd never take that away from her or them. But if she were to kick the bucket, you'd better bet I'd adopt them in a heartbeat.

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ANNE 8102 | GEORGIA

I WOULD IN A HEARTBEAT!!

a few years ago, no way now!!!!!

Stepwitch
Thank you Disney for portraying a positive image on all stepmothers!!!!

They have both of their parents and I am content being am in-law.

Georgie

I wish so bad we could have raised SD, even from age 8 when I met her . . I know she would have done a lot better in school, at minimum! It makes me sad to think how great that would have been, instead of what actually happened.

"A lie told often enough becomes the truth." - Vladimir Lenin

you would actually have some sort of power then

life is a box of choclates you never know what your going to get (i always pick the coffe of the box what about you )

No no and heck no!

They are two out of control brats and if I ever got divorced I would have to pay child support for them!

Don't fear the thorns among the Roses, but be greatful for the Roses among the thorns

I'm not ready. BF and I have only been together for 10 months. I love the girls and maybe one day if things are good yes. But we are all still getting to know each other.

I'm not ready. BF and I have only been together for 10 months. I love the girls and maybe one day if things are good yes. But we are all still getting to know each other.

send me the papers I will sign!!!!!!!!!!!!!

There is no reason where logic does not exist

not only No, but Hell No.

I remain, the world's most evil stepmom; ask anyone.

No no and hell no!

Those kids have made my life hell. They are also killing my marriage and DH is letting them.

Heck no if I adopted them then got a divorce I would have to pay him CS! I don't think so!! Plus if anything ever happened to him they would be mine! ummm... no no no no no...

I would rather drive nails in my foot then jerk them out slowly and soak the foot in alcohol!

~Don't fear the thorns among the Roses, but be greatful for the Roses among the thorns~

The poor child needs stability, a healthy environment and proper care. If they would allow for us to provide that for him, I would sign the papers in a heartbeat.

*~So sayeth Nymh~*

Considering I am only 22 and a SP, I think this question may or could have a different answer a few years down the road. I may say no right now, but I would probably change my answer to "only if the bio bm was deceased" down the road.

If BM ever walked out of SD's life completely, I would. BM isn't likely to, or to sign off rights even if she did. We only have about 5 more years in this anyway, then it will not matter anymore. I am really interested to see what SD will do when she no longer "has" to see her mom, or us for that matter.

It would be best for SD if BM walked away. The therapist has said it herself.

But BM likely won't. So we'll just keep doing this crazy dance until 2013.

"Om Tare Tutare Ture Mama Ayurpunye Jnana Putin Kuru Svaha"
~Sita Tara Mantra

Well,I would but only the one SK that I have here living with us!
he is awsume, The other Sk prolly wish I would fall off the face of the earth and die

" Life is like a jar or Jalapeno peppers, what you
do today could burn your a*s tomorrow."

No no no. God no.

If I had a time machine, I would go back to the fork in the road and run like hell in the other direction.

Never, not in a million years. Not even if I was paid to do it, or their awful bm dropped dead.

I love her a lot but the answer is no. I'm coming onto the scene fairly late (she was 11 when I met her, now 14) in the game, and while she's a great kid now and I'm happy to support her, care for her and love her, she has a mom, and even if she didn't she's close enough in age to being legally on her own where there would be no pros to it, and only cons for me legally....